(Closed) Tossing the bouquet when nobody will be single

posted 11 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 62
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’ll be 34 by the time our wedding comes around, and it will be the second time around for both of us … which means we’re looking for something a little less ‘crazy’ than the weddings we had before (not that there’s anything wrong with it – we’ve just done it already!). This time around, we’re going to have the anniversary dance instead of the traditional first dance, and at the end we’ll ask the last couple standing (my grandparents!) for any words of wedded-wisdom that they’d like to share with us – and we’ll present them with my bouquet as a gesture of love and thanks.

Post # 63
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Skipping the boquet toss and going with the anniversery dance.  The top 3 longest married will get a prize.

Post # 64
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

As a 38 year old bride with a 43 year old Fiance, we are going to leave the toss the bouquet/garter tradition out of our festivities!

Post # 65
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I saw something at a wedding that I thought was really cute.  The bride pretended she was going to toss the bouquet, but then turned around and handed it to her friend who was engaged to be married.  The groom did the same with the garter, he handed it to the girl’s future hubby.  The girl started crying and the room exploded with applause.  It was really a cute little idea, and it went over so well.

Post # 66
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m 36 and we’re definitely NOT doing a bouquet toss. There’s nothing I hated more over the past 15 years than being coerced, pushed and even shoved onto the dance floor for the damn single ladies bouquet toss. YUCK! (imo)

That being said, we ARE doing a garter toss…but it will be a bit different. It’s a Reverse Garter Toss -It will be tossed to all the men who got married within the past 10-15 years (haven’t decided yet). They will then have to put it on their wife!! Innocent

Post # 67
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@oyster:I love this idea!!

Post # 68
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@evalague:

What about giving the bouquet to the longest married woman in the room? Maybe give her and her hubby a short spotlight dance or maybe a small cake also?

Post # 69
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

If you don’t have many single friends I wouldn’t throw it as I think it might humiliate them in public.  It’s not your age so much as the amount of single friends you have. 

Post # 70
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Nope, I think that tradition was designed to humiliate all the single women at a wedding. I am going to give my bouquet to the longest married lady at my reception. Now that is something to celebrate!

Post # 71
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am a 29 yr old bride, but also have an issue with a bouquet toss. Not only do i not have a lot of single friends, but I also think its a bit lame to call out those who are single b/c they are in the minority.

In lieu of the traditional toss bouquet – I am going to construct a bouquet of lottery scratch-off tickets and invite “anyone who wants to get lucky” to partake. I figure it puts an interesting spin on the tradition and will get people slightly more excited than they may have been otherwise.

Post # 72
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I guess for tradition sake I am going to do the toss.  Most of my friends are married…but I have a handful that are not…and I think it can be fun.  I know for some people it is uncomfortable but I think people enjoy it.

Post # 73
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@kriskriss:

I love this idea!!  My fiances family is full of gamblers…they would love it.  I love it!!!  Have fun…

Post # 74
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

after reading this, I need to think about how many single ladies there will be at my wedding! I plan on doing it, but there may not be too many people out there.  (i’m not quite a 30 something yet…only 28)

we are definitely skipping the garter toss. just seems weird to me.

I went to a wedding last summer that had over 200 people at it and there were only about 6 of us on the floor for the bouquet toss.  awkward, a bit.  but still fun. 

and I always assumed that up until the time there is a ring on your finger, you participate, even if you are in a serious relationship.  is that not what most other people think?? 

Post # 75
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I actually didnt wind up throwing my bouquet because I felt it would stop the flow of the party… and people both young and old, single and attached were upset.

 

but i did have a special toss bouquet created, it was a loose bouquet of flowers that would break apart into indivual roses so that multiple girls could each catch a flower for good luck!  not just one… very cool idea and great for pics! just let ur photog know.

Post # 76
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We did the Anniversary Dance right after our first dance and it was FABULOUS.  One of the most-mentioned parts of the evening! 

 

It was fabulous watching all the couples remember their own first dances.  🙂  Since my bouquet had wilted in the heat of the afternoon photoshoot between the wedding and reception, we ended up giving the largest of the arrangements away. 

Best of all, it gave our photographer a chance to capture candid portraits of our friends that we could then give to them as thank-you gifts. Such happy tears! 

So, yeah, I’m firmly in favor of a tradition that celebrates marriage rather than humiliating the single.  🙂

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