(Closed) Tossing the bouquet when nobody will be single

posted 11 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 93
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m skipping the toss.
Firstly most everyone at my wedding is in a commited relationship, married or not.
Secondly I can’t take the toss. A few months back I was at a wedding. I was 33 years old, and in an almost 3 year relationship. I was so very senstive about not having a “serious” aka engagement relationship. Being dragged out onto the dance floor with a bunch of 20 somethings made me almost spend the rest of the night crying in the bathroom. I’m not putting anyone else through that garbage. 

 

Post # 94
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Some years ago at a wedding I caught the bouquet and had to endure Mr. Sweaty Drunk Frat Boy slipping the garter he caught up my leg. Ew.Ew.Ew. I’m still traumatized.

So I’m not gonna put my friends through that. Ew again, just thinking about it.

Post # 95
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m 35 and I will be doing both…I know they are CHEEESSEEEYYYY but ….I a sucker for traditions…and I feel like I want to do it because I don’t want to feel like a part of my reception is missing….

Post # 96
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m 33 and not doing either. For my own wedding my philosophy is that I want my guests to enjoy good food, drinks & celebrate with us. Honestly I never enjoyed all the game-like aspects of weddings– ALWAYS found the garter thing awkward, NEVER enjoyed participating in a bouquet toss. So many weird staged distracting elements, with loud DJ’s yelling into their microphone… its just not for me. 

Post # 97
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389 posts
Helper bee

wow! 

why dont you save your bouquet then and put it in a shadow box :))

Post # 98
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Busy bee

I’m old enough to not enjoy the whole single status search at a bouquet toss… it’s definitely better to have a group of single ladies, and I’ve seen the oldest couple giveaway too, and while I think the sentiment is sweet, I also have noticed that so much of the wedding reception is couple oriented that it is nice to have something that wishes joy on those who haven’t meet their mate yet!  And I have to confess, I love the toss photos, I think I like the idea of the classic exiting toss to the group that surrounds you…or the concept of gifting the bouquet to your best single girl friend…quietly not with an annoucement. 

 

Post # 99
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This is my second wedding so I’m skipping the boquet toss as well.  We have a 5 year old daughter and I’ll be giving her my boquet. 

Post # 100
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We are not doing either. There are a lot of traditions that we are actually not having at the wedding. It’s my 2nd wedding and he wants to keep it simple!

Post # 102
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

  

@Jennifer5642:  I did soemthing similar…(i tossed another bouquet not mine ) but we got enough single girls even some of my cousimg wher reluctant to join,,i had to really push them out of the chair..too shy i guess. some of my cousins who still single/or not married at my age.. (37)..some where in their late 20ànd my husband have very young sisters…(10 sibilings but only 5 of them came to our wedd in italy ) in the edn the sister got the bouquet..but i decided to hand my on bouquet to my closest cousin..and she was touched..:)

Post # 103
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have 6 single girls so I don’t know – I’ve been called up at EVERY wedding I’ve been to. I think I will do it.

Post # 104
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m not throwing mine as there aren’t many singletons and I think it will be cringey. I’m also not giving it to the longest married couple because… that’s my parents! And a) I’m already planning a separate, fresh bouquet for my mum and b) I kind of think that would be a slap in the face to my FI’s parents, who are both divorced and remarried (he feels the same).

I’m considering putting it on the grave of my next-door neighbour, who was like a grandmother to me and would have loved to see me get married, but it will take some logistical planning to get it there.

Post # 105
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m in my 20’s and considering not doing it – i have very few single friends and Fiance has even fewer single guy friends.

My sister got married in her early 30’s and they didn’t do a bouquet or garter toss. I missed it just out of tradition (not that i would have gone up since i was engaged) but there wasn’t much of a reason for her to have one considering all her friends were married.

Post # 106
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am definitly doing both but not sure if it’ll be just for single people or make it into a game of some sort. I HATED when people would single me out at weddings (fi and i are literally the only couple left in his family in our age group that are single.)  But I do find the tosses fun…. not sure what to do.  I will have single girls at the wedding but not very many. I think I’ll have anyone to go up if they want to.  

Post # 107
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I loved what my sister did at her wedding. Out of her friends she was the second to last to get married so when we announced the bouquet and garter toss instead of everyone lining up ect she walked right over to their friend (who was in a relationship and had been for about 5 years) and handed it to her and looked at the boyfriend and said “HINT!” It was great and very memorable!

 

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