(Closed) Tossing the bouquet…

posted 10 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 3
717 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m not a fan of the bouquet toss for any age. But, I’ve seen women of all ages get up and particpate in the catching (from tweens to lates 70s). Maybe casually ask some of the ladies who would particpate what they think of the idea.

Post # 4
7111 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I haven’t really liked the idea of a bouquette toss since I was about 12, but that’s just me. If you’re close with some of the likely candidates why don’t you get their opinion? And consider if you will be upset if nobody comes up for the toss?

Post # 5
1258 posts
Bumble bee

I’m debating this too. I’m going to have maybe 2 single women in their 20s. And a few in their 30s and 40s who don’t care about being married and wouldn’t want to catch it if they could. We’re not doing a garter toss, so I’m thinking of just skipping it and taking my bouquet home and putting it in a vase to enjoy!

Post # 6
1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I personally feel that once you hit your 30s, bouquet tosses are just embarrassing for your guests.  Would you consider perhaps giving your bouquet to an engaged friend or to a couple that’s been married the longest?  For my wedding, if a particular couple is able to attend, I plan on giving them my bouquet because their 10 year anniversary is the day before my wedding.

Post # 7
15 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m not going to have too many single ladies at my wedding, so I’m thinking I will attach a gift card to the bouquet and open it up to ALL ladies, not just the single ones.  We will do the same for the garter toss in order to encourage/entice the reluctant guys!

Post # 8
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m not doing it, never really liked the idea. I have seen on here that some women invite ALL women up or throw a money bouqet instead. I think you’d get more participation that way

Post # 9
1119 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m skipping it.  I’ve been to tons of weddings where it wasn’t done and I never noticed till after the fact.

Post # 10
232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Are the unmarrieds mostly SINGLE or just not yet married? I also don’t have many unmarried ladies, but the ones coming are mostly in long-term committed relationships where marriage has been talked about … so for them, catching the bouquet would be funny so they can harrass their SOs about getting engaged 🙂  But, if they’re single-single and not too happy about it, then they may not want to participate. I agree that maybe the best solution is to ask a couple of the likely contenders how they’d feel about it!

Post # 11
12326 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I skipped it.  I’ve always hated being pushed up there for it at any age.

Post # 12
4145 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m not doing it because I don’t want to interrupt the party for stuff like that and the garter toss. However, my best friend got married last year (we are 30) and she made a toss pomander and tied a 5.00 starbucks gift card to it, as well as a fake garter with the 5.00, that way everyone could participate.

Post # 13
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I just went to my nephew’s wedding on Saturday and they did the traditional bouquet toss and garter toss (and subsequent putting on of the garter buy the two “winners”).  I think four of us, out of 150 guests, went up, and that’s only bc my sister in law (mother of the groom) made me.  Apparently an engagement ring and impending wedding doesn’t disqualify you.

The bouquet hit off the ceiling and fell about five feet in front of us.  My sister, who has been dying for a wedding proposal from her 4+ year boyfriend is the only one who made a beeline for it.  She’s also the only one who didn’t know that the guy who caught the garter was going to have to put the garter on her…she was mortified!!!

It was hilarious, but something I probably won’t do.  I like the idea of having married couples come on to the dance floor and eliminate them by years married and give the bouquet and garter to the longest married couple….which will be my future in-laws who will have been married for 49 years.

Post # 14
1741 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I did it, and it landed in the chandelier and was HILARIOUS. Actually, tons of now-single moms of my/DH’s friends–even my Mother-In-Law jumped in. I thought there would be 4 people. but there was a big clump of ladies.


It was one of the fun moments at my wedding, and I had thought it would be stressful.


If you’re worried, don’t do it–or invite anyone, and say they “win” the second slice of cake, or a $5 to starbucks, like the PP said.

Post # 15
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m not doing a garter or bouquet toss. I’m in my 30’s and so are most of my single friends (most of whom don’t want to be single). I think they would be embarrassed to be the only one over the age of 12 standing there trying to catch a bouquet. 

I find the garter toss embarassing infront of my kids and parents. Instead we are doing a dance with all the married couples and having them sit accorfing to how long they’ve been married and who ever has been married the longest get the bouget and garter. 

But to each their own, if its important to you then go ahead and do the toss. I agree with inviting all women, might be fun for the grandmothers. I know mine would be the one knocking people out of the way for it 🙂


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