(Closed) Total bridezilla friend

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

All I can say is that different women handle the stress of wedding planning in many ways. Some can successfully balance it with their daily life, some (like your friend) cannot.

I completely understand you being hurt by her behaviour prior to the wedding and would definitely be upset as well.

I guess the question you have to ask yourself is, “Is the friendship worth saving?”

If you valued her a a friend before she became, as you described, a “bridezilla”, then I would try to forgive her actions and move on.

But if the friendship was only so-so before it all started, then i would just distance myself from her efforts to reconnect and move on with life

Post # 4
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157 posts
Blushing bee

do you want to be her “fairweather” friend? Like you said, you don’t need acquaintances, you need friends. She doesn’t sound like a very good one.

Post # 4
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7581 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@starrynight: All relationships should revolve around being honest. I would tell her how you feel. If she doesn’t like it, I don’t think you’re losing much, by the way that she treated you.

Post # 5
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5976 posts
Bee Keeper

I would also sit her down and explain to her how her behavior hurt you rather than just letting the friendship fade. She’s more than likely not going to realize what she’s done to you as a friend and she at least deserves to know why she’s losing your friendship.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@starrynight: you could always make a lunch date then cencel it? :/

That really sucks that happened. If you alreadyhave witten her off, I wouldn’t waste my time reaching back out to her. If it was me I wouldn’t let her know what she did wrong unless she asks.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

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@starrynight: That sucks. Sounds like you two went really good friends? Money issues make things rough.. is she not well off? Maybe she couldn’t afford more people at her wedding, and vansihed becuase she felt bad?

I know I am not going out of my way to contact anyone becuase I am getting married. However we have enough budget to invite our friends and their signifcant others.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

And yes, I am also married, fairly recently.  I had a fairly large (compared to hers), fairly lavish wedding, and while I understand there’s some stress involved, I sure didn’t spend 8 hours a day planning it for six months straight.  I’m not jealous or bitter that she’s married and I’m not.  I simply have never run into an actual bridezilla before.)

I’m confused. Are you married or not? It doesn’t seem like she was being a bridezilla to me. It’s not like she was screaming at everyone trying to get her way. If she had a small wedding, then it was a small wedding. If we decide to have a small wedding then most of my friends wouldn’t be invited either because family comes first. She could have had a very tight guest list and had to invite family first.

Post # 11
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Honey bee

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@starrynight: Its not that uncommon that women have bachelorette parties and maybe even a shower…even though they are having a small weddding. And why do you think those events are only for single women?

Im going to a bachelorette party next month for a friend, and Im not invited to the wedding. She is only having 20 people, all family members, so I totally understand. I do however understand about the thank you note thing…that is rude.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@Miss Tattoo: I think the OP was trying to say that jealousy because her friend is married and she isn’t, is NOT the issues since she was recently married herself.

OP if I’m incorrect, please clarify.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@starrynight: What was her response to your email?

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