Post # 1
Hi everyone, I’m new here 🙂 And totally overwhelmed with this wedding planning business. I’ll give you a brief overview of the kind of wedding we are interested in just so you have that for reference 😀
Basically, we are not interested in having an overly traditional (cliche?) wedding. So we are looking to have 50 people at an elegant downtown restaurant. We are going for a more intimate, dinner party feel. So this means the following:
– no bridal party
– no garter or bouquet tosses
– no speeches
– no guest books
– no favours
– no limo rentals
– no wedding registries
I will be wearing a wedding dress (with veil and bouquet) and Fiance is opting for a sharp suit and tie he can wear again as opposed to a tux. And we are having a professional photographer and having a cake!
So I have a question for you all. We are toying with the idea whether dancing/DJ is necessary at all? At first we were thinking of doing this. But now we are wondering if we should just skip the whole dinner then dancing thing and just go with on-site ceremony, cocktails, dinner and then more cocktails and allow the guests to talk and mingle through the night? You know, like a dinner party? Would that be really really lame? lol
On one hand I’m really loving the idea of just allowing us and our guests to have good conversations and mingling after dinner rather than letting a DJ take over. On the other hand, I wonder if people won’t know what to do with themselves? To be honest, the last couple of weddings I’ve been to…I wouldn’t say the DJ/dancing was a raging success either. I found most people just sat at their tables and talked or were hanging out by the bar drinking. Just a few people were dancing and IMO, nothing looks ‘sorrier’ than an empty dance floor. Thoughts??
Post # 3
@coconutcupcake: Definitely hire a band or DJ. Most dinner parties have them too. We are also doing away with a lot of tradition, so I’m with you there. But you are still hosting a party and need that form of entertainment. If you aren’t looking for a”rager” kind of party just interview bands and DJ’s that fit the style you are going for.
Hope that helps
Post # 4
At the end of the day, I think you know your guests best and can decide whether they would be happy to just mingle and chat for the evening. If your guests don’t know each other too well, it could also get uncomfortable for some of them too. If it’s in the budget, I think I would still book a DJ and have a small dance floor, and then if people choose to mingle instead of dance, there’s no harm done. I’ve been to weddings before where they didn’t have a dance or DJ, and people just ended up leaving really early because of the lack of entertainment. You can also interview DJ’s to make sure you’re getting someone who will accomodate to the kind of atmosphere you are going for too.
I also agree that many dinner parties include dancing/DJ’s, so just because you hire one, doesn’t mean would be doing away with your dinner party theme.
Post # 5
@SmthngBlu8: A live band might be nice! You are right, the more upscale dinner parties (which is what we are aiming for) do usually include music of some sort. The restaurant we are interested in did memtion that if we were to not hire a DJ/band that they would play their own selection of music which would be Top 40 or something.
Post # 6
@mckayl2: While a lot of the guests do know one another, I wouldn’t say that every single person knows every other single person there. There will be pockets of well acquainted people, if that makes sense. I will look into this a bit more then before writing it off completely. Appreciate the feedback!