Post # 1
Hi everyone! I just signed up here so I’m not sure if this is a typical thing or not.
I’m probably going to tell my engagement story in a separate thread, but long story short my bf of 6 years proposed to me 2 months ago — 3 months after surprising me with buying my dream house for us.
I’m super happy, but this also came earlier than expected so we both decided it would be best to have a long engagement (about a year and a half) so we have enough time to save money and just settle in our house for a while. After all, we still have furniture to buy! At any rate, I still feel like I should be doing some research and planning for this wedding and to be honest I have no earthly idea where to even start. Does anyone have any specific threads they could point me to or links that they have used to help them? I don’t know when is too early to do certain things, what a typical budget is, how many people is a “big” wedding, etc. I don’t know the outline for this, especially since most of the information I’ve looked at already involves weddings that are a little bit closer in date than mine is. Please help a new girl out!
Post # 2
the tabs on top of this website have a lot of info, and if you’re searching for something specific you can always search for the key terms using the search bar. Also websites like the knot, weddingwire and so on offer many many articles on wedding planning. Googling some nearby vendors and calling to ask about the prices for those you like will help you with the budget too. if you can’t find the info anywhere you can post a thread and the bees will help you out. 🙂
Post # 3
Ditto PP. Honestly what is “typical” for size and budget is really personal and regional. My wedding would be exorbitant by most people’s standards, but it’s actually very typical in my pricey part of the world (nyc). You first steps should probably be to think about what kind of wedding you want. Do you want a huge blowout with everyone you know? Something small and intimate with close family and friends? Something whimsical in the country or urban and glam? Destination wedding in Mexico? That’s going to help you start to pull together the pieces. They say the first thing you need is a budget and if you have a hard line in the sand about that (eg you know you can’t spend more than $25k) then that’s good to know. For us we more had a general idea of what we’d like to spend but we had to do a lot of research before we understood what everything would cost in our area before we really figured it out. We looked at venues and catering costs as our number one expense so talked to a lot of venues and caterers to figure out what was out there. That’s your first step. But before you do any of that you’ll need at least a rough idea of your guest count. Places have maximums and minimums so you’ll need to know that you see what is going to work for you.
I say get a sense of numbers (guest count) and start researching venues. Even tho your wedding is a ways off I’d start now – in some areas venues book their Saturdays a year in advance. I know new York isn’t typical but we were looking almost a year out and had basically no Saturday options at all, and we took the last Friday our venue had open. So that’s the number one thing!
After you have that look into dress and the bigger/more important vendors, which may depend on what your priorities are but usually include caterer (if not included with the venue), photographer, DJ/band and florist. The resources listed above are great for that!
Good luck, and congratulations!!
Post # 4
Congratulations Bee!!! Since you’re 2018, sit back and enjoy the engagement for a bit. Revel in that because wedding planning in general can become a big stressor when it’s still so far away. For instance, I got engaged in June of 2015 and we’re only getting married 7 months from today. I got all ready and worked up and then became anxious that I could only do so much so far out. So please, I urge you to enjoy the engagement for as long as you can!
Post # 5
Me and my SO are having a long engagement. We got engaged July 2015 and are getting married October 2017. Just enjoy this time and start doing some research. I got a wedding binder with different tabs so I could put information and pictures in there. There is also a lot of information here on weddingbee.com! 🙂
Post # 6
Depending on where you live you may want to start planning sooner than later.
I would start with a guest list and a budget. I would also put feelers out in your area to determine pricing.
I had no idea how much weddings cost in nyc until I got engaged.
Post # 7
I got engaged and planned for a wedding 11 months later (which is actually next week now)… I would say, figure out your ideal number of guests (which you may have to wittle down as you look at things) and budget… then start looking at the venue(s), the photographer, and the DJ/band right away, get prices and availability and book by the 1 year mark. I didn’t look around as much as I’d like because it seemed like everything I DID look at had limited availability so I didn’t want to waste time. Everything else can wait a little bit, even your dress, which I was told a year out so I got right away. That will depend on where you get it though to, because I’ve seen people wait up to 6 months for their dress.
Post # 8
Start with a budget. Determine your venue, book it while simultaneously determining your wedding date. Start reviewing vendors.
Post # 9
I think the average wedding is 150-200? Probably depends on your families and how involved your parents are with choosing guests. I’ve seen upwards of 300+ guests? Mine is 110 including my Fiance and myself. This includes a lot of my coworkers, because I’m a chatty cathy at work and befriend a lot of people and a lot of my Fiance family. I’m not close to my family, so only my sisters will be there.
I googled and pinterested the heck out of everything, even a timeline of list of things to do, which was helpful as a guideline.
Post # 10
Oh yes! And be a little flexible with your date like j9marie was insinuating. I had a flex time of about a month, and landed where I did because of venue availability.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre
Weddingwire is amazing it gives you a timeline and helps out with everything, Congratulations
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
Sign up for wedding wire. You can use their online checklist with reminders, you can search for vendors, you can use them to create your wedding website. I really like the services they offer!
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angelinagonzalez : thank you so much! Bookmarking now 🙂
MrsSapphire nellytfernando : checking it out, it looks like a GREAT resource so thank you!
I appreciate you all responding! I’m really excited but super out of my element with all of this. Unfortunately my mom isn’t really wanting to be involved, so I’m kinda trudging through figuring stuff out on my own. So glad I joined this site 🙂
Post # 15
You should download Weddingwire or TheKnot app. They have an engagement checklist for all the things you should do to help prepare for your wedding. When I first got engaged, I was on pinterest 24/7 just pinning different ideas on different wedding boards. I would start there just to have an idea of what you’d like to have for your wedding. Since you’re more than likely having your wedding in 2018, you may not start planning until next year. Right now, y’all could figure out the wedding date and budget. As far as looking for venues, you could start looking at different ones y’all want but many venues won’t book if it’s more than a year out.