(Closed) Total Sticker Shock. =(

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

LOL.  Yes.  Our intial budget was $5000.  It’s now three days out and we’re at $7718.95.  And that doesn’t even take into account my dress that was a gift from Future Mother-In-Law ($600), beer (FI is buying it so I don’t know the cost), and various little things that we’ve picked up along the way and not counted in the total (probably $200-300).

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Oh no 🙁 I hate that feeling! I’m not quite engaged yet (soon! squee!), but this is definitely helpful to mention for my planning in the future. Thank you for the post! I hope everything works out for you!

And @Sugaree:  3 days! Wow! Congrats! Can’t wait to read all about it!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Oh, dear. I know exactly what you mean. I pride myself on being very, very good at budgeting but we are almost 50% over our initial projected budget. And some days it really makes me sick to my stomach and makes me desperately wish we had eloped!!

That being said, I’ve had quite a few of my friends who are married reassure me that they don’t think about the money once it’s over and all paid for and I sure hope I will feel the same. I also hope I have some awesome memories and it’s a really good day considering all the time, money and energy that went into it. (I wish the same for you too.)

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We actually did not go over our budget.  I had to make a few changes along the way, and we were lucky enough to use networking to locate photographers and a dj which saved us a lot of money.

Venue:  I found an all inclusive venue where we could do the ceremony and reception at the same location.  We could get married in the gardens outside, and inside on the first floor in the event of rain (which it did- it was a deluge out there!) then the reception would be just upstairs in the main ballroom.  This saved us a ceremony site fee, and we ddn’t have to shell out any additional money for a back-up rain plan.

Food:  The venue we chose had very fair catering prices.  We took that one step further and hosted a sit down lunch instead of a sit down dinner.  That slashed our catering bill almost in HALF!  The venue also provided plates, napkins, linens, silverware, and glassware since it was all inclusive.

Alcohol:  We had planned to host beer and wine, but his parents really wanted to have an open bar.  They decided it was important enough to them that we have an unlimited bar that they offered to pay for it.  Lucky, lucky, lucky for us.

Photog/Dj:  We decided against “friendors” but went with acquaintances for these services.  Yes, we took a bit of a chance, but it really paid off- we had fantastic music and lovely photos.

Dress & accessories:  I bought off the rack and on sale at David’s Bridal, then took it to a local seamstress for alterations.  I bought a used crinoline on the Weddingbee classifieds, and decided to skip the veil alltogether. 

Decor/favors:  We toyed with the idea of a candy bar as favors, but took that one more step and had bowls of candy on the tables as centerpieces.  We had baggies at each place setting for people to put candy in, and it also encouraged people to get up and mingle as there were different candies at each table.  We also used the plain white linens provided by the venue, and opted to skip chair covers. 

Other:  We didn’t have a getaway vehicle, we are taking a delayed honeymoon/anniversary trip, we didn’t have a videographer, and we didn’t have the gigantic cake.  We had cupcakes instead so there was a variety of flavors (and it was cheaper)

 

In all, we had a perfectly lovely wedding that was within budget, but some of that was due to knowing the right people, being in the right place at the right time, and just plain dumb luck!

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

 There are definitely moments that I think about the amount of money being spent on one day and it makes me sick…

But after awhile you just accept the craziness and roll with it!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes, we had hooped for $13k, ended up spending $17k for 70 people. But I live in the most expensive city in the U.S so not bad! It was funny, about 2 weeks before the wedding my Darling Husband relayed a conversation he had with his coworker who said things like, “well, it’s really all for the bride” and “think about it. You could have travelled the world with that money”. I gave him the death stare and asked, “why even say that to me now?!?”. I was a bridezilla by that point.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes, we had hoped for $13k, but ended up spending $17k for 70 people. That included anything remotely wedding related. But I live in the most expensive city in the U.S so this wasn’t that bad actually. 

It was funny, about 2 weeks before the wedding my Darling Husband relayed a conversation he had with his coworker who said things like, “well, it’s really all for the bride anyway” and “think about it. You could have travelled the world with that money”. I gave him the death stare and asked, “why even say that to me now?!? Are you TRYING to make me feel bad?!. I was a bridezilla by that point. 🙂

sorry for the double post!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Uh yes. The wedding market is such a racket. If I was to start over again, I would tell vendors it’s for a charity or something else Not Wedding Related. Vendors jack up prices at the sound of wedding. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

My initial budget was $2000… bumped up to $6000 (thanks to my grandparents, but seriously we couldn’t have done this wedding for that little).

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m in the same situation, and the sticker shock never goes away. We thought we were being smart saying that we would save and spend about $15,000 as our budget cap, hoping it would end up cheaper than that… Now I’m between 20-25K, probably even more, and cutting things that we sort of do see as essential (alcohol, mainly). We’re looking at a guest list of about 200, hoping that we can cut it down to invite only about 160 and just pray that another 20-30 are unable to come. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

For myself, we have just accepted the fact that we are spending 25k (not including my dress or our rings)  We aren’t even going ALL out, we have 100 or so guests, and the venue was the big chunk of 15k including our ceremony, reception, dinner and all the details that come with dinner, alcohol etc. We shopped around for a good package and tried to keep this at 10k but it just wasnt possible. So we have to give in to the extra 5k. We are left with 10k for the rest, photographer 3k flowers 3k day of planner$200, Cake so far is budgeted at 850 but will keep shopping.

 

Basically we accepted a number and found things that worked in it. We didnt add on, for instance when a wedding planner quoted me 2k for ONE day I said no thanks, and kept shopping around. I knew that pictures were extremely important to me, and so I made sure we had the photographer I wanted, whose work is amazing. This ment a smaller flower budget. Yes overall 25k is a lot of money… but I’ve just decided to embrace it rather than dwell. We will not go over, anything else will mean we manipulate other numbers to go down if we add something else in. But we want to control spending and not give in to the wedding industry as a business, with us being the consumer getting every possible item listed. Just the things we would like for our special day, to make it nice, tastey, and memorable.

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