(Closed) Total Sticker Shock. =(

posted 9 years ago in Money
Post # 17
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93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We had over a year to save, so had a big budget to start with and are actually coming in under. But we are still spending a ton for one day – mostly on catering and alcohol, which is what we decided was important to us.   🙂

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I decided to not even have a vow renewal because it’s fucking ridiculous how much people expect you to spend on ONE DAY.

Average catering cost in the area we wanted to do it in?

$4,500!

Fuck that.

We decided we’re going to New Zealand or Europe instead of paying for a bunch of family drama bullshit whatever. Plus, we can use that money on a car, a house, new shoes…

I ain’t got time for that.

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@JillyCheesesteak:  It depends on how hardline you are about your budget and what you are willing to sacrifice to stay within your budget.  Our budget is $5K but when all is said and done it will be about $6K.

The three best things you can do to maintain your budget are: 1) cut your guest list; 2) only look at venues and vendors within your budget; and 3) have a simpler reception.  For my first wedding I had a sit down 3 course dinner for 60 guests on a Saturday night in a major city with a (free!) live band for under $8K.  It’s doable but you have to be smart and you have to look at venues that are not traditional wedding venues.  We used a local restaurant that specialized in corporate parties and rehearsal dinners but not weddings so our dinner was $16 a plate and our open bar was capped at $800 (we only ended up spending $300 because it was a limited bar with draft beer, house wine, and well liquor only.)  Once we guaranteed 60 guests they waived the room rental fee and included cake cutting and linens.  They provided a live band in their open restaurant next door so when they started to play we opened the doors to our private room so our guests could enjoy the band.

This time around we booked a beach house for a week and we are serving a catered BBQ buffett for less than $12 per person and we are getting alcohol tax free from a local military base.  We are going very casual so we don’t have to waste money on decorations.

Post # 20
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4554 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I find that we are actaully under budget right now, but our original budget was somewhat…pessimistic. I’d done enough reading about wedding and budgeting during my waiting time, fortunately, to know that lowballing isn’t going to help anything.

Post # 21
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6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@JillyCheesesteak:  We used the Murano Cafe and saved $$$ because they were not a wedding venue.  They can only accommodate 80 people though.  I cannot recommend cutting your guest list as much as possible to save the most money.  Every head can add an additional $10-400 based on price per plate, open bar, larger cake, favors, etc….

Post # 22
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721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Yup. That’s when we decided to just run off to Vegas instead!

Post # 23
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6533 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Totally. I thought we could do it for 10k. Try tripling that? I kept finding stuff we HAD to have or do and also our guest list is enormous. 

Post # 24
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931 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yes! LOL. Our initial budget was $15,000 which is what my parents are giving us. We will probably be more around $25,000 which is okay. Fiance and I are successful so we have the money. My sticker shock came from the additional fees & taxes! Yikes!

Post # 25
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2248 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

Yes I wanted to pay about 12k well we had an option for that but we found out lots of people wanted to attend. In the end we’ve just accepted its going to be a 20k endevor. We pushed the date out for our wedding and will be finalizing that in the next 4-6 weeks with Disney. We did have some choice though a 100 person wedding with little that we wanted at 20k+ and no honey moon or 20k for 40-55 people with what we wanted and a honey moon. We chose to spend the money in a manner that gets us what we want rather than what other people expect. So atleast if I know I am getting my dream in the process I’m ok with it. I wasnt however ok with spending 20k for a drinking dancing fest that went to 1am and exhuasted and stressed me to the max. 20k for an evening ceremony nice dinner and fireworks and a few extras I’ll take.

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@JillyCheesesteak:  Is there still time to back out and elope? It’s scary how much weddings cost and I can think of many things more important to us than one expensive day of partying with people we don’t particularly know/like (we have small families so 150 would be huge for us) lol.

Unless it’s really important to you to have a big wedding with everyone there, the fact you’re having sticker shock might be telling you something.

Post # 30
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6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@JillyCheesesteak:  One more thing.  If you haven’t signed a venue contract yet then WAIT!  There are budget venues in and around Orlando that can accommodate 150 people, you just have to look outside the bridal shows and magazines.

Looking around Disney and International Drive will give you a heart attack that is for sure!  Have you tried the Winter Park Farmer’s Market?  The Courtyard at Lake Lucerne?  Dubsdread Golf and CC?  Ballroom at Church Street?  The Lake Mary Events Center?  Maitland Art Museum?  The UCF Alumni Club has a nice venue for alumni of the university if either of you or your parents are graduates.

How about a Friday night wedding over a Saturday night wedding?  A venue where you can BYOB instead of having to hire a bartender and pay per guest.  There are a lot of considerations that you should have when considering a venue to cut costs as well.

EDIT: You likely could have saved a lot of money by researching your venue more but I understand you’re stuck at this point.  Well, I guess the best thing that can be said is that it should be susbstantially less than a similar reception thrown in NY.

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