TO @KateByDesign: Personally, I find your Bulimea argument a good one. I think so many are turned off by this situation because it is happening at “the other end” of the body… but honestly I see the issues could be quite similar. A habit based in some sort of self depreciation, concept, idea, OCD, mental issue, that went off the rails.
I know that SHAME is big for many people. We all have some sort of secrets in our life and pick and choose WHO we share them with (friends, family, spouces) IF AT ALL
That doesn’t make the person evil. Just confused / sick.
Most fears, phobias and such can be overcome with counselling.
Obviously this man was good enough to Date, Love and Marry… and have sex with (even after she knew his darkest secret)
He isn’t Satan.
He is just a poor misdirected ill person
He deserves love and compassion and understanding.
They both do.
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PS… Lol, at my age over 50, like I said, if I was to start discounting my friends & love ones cause of their “awkward” health issues that pose an inconvenience for me due to circumstance or just plain knowing about them (Sally uses a cane, Martha has to watch what she eats, June needs lots of bathroom breaks, Paul farts often… altho he is particularly embarassed by it… and politely apologizes, Fred wears hearing aids, Bob has a fear of heights, and Cathy of the Dark… Mr TTR snores and is a light sleeper, and a dear family member wears a diaper, and I had a major emotional BREAKDOWN in my 40s. Lol, I’d be cutting my friend list down immensely, and I’d be missing out on some of the best people I know. Not that all my friends are “broken” People are a lot more than a sum of their parts. As you get older you begin to realize that more and more, what goes on with someone on the inside is waaay more important than what happens on the outside. Our bodies will fail us all us eventually. Because in actuality… that is what we all end up dying from… our bodies give out, in so much as they cannot sustain us any longer despite what the “Death Certificate” says in words).