Post # 1
It’s our “dativersary” – as of today we’ve been an official, exclusive couple for six years. And I don’t get to see Fiance, at all 🙁
We had made big plans earlier in the summer for us to each take the day off work, spend it together, and just really live it up (um, mostly that we’d get old time portraits taken since I’ve been BEGGING for that forever, ha!).
It’s our last dating anniversary before we get married, so it’s just special to me. But life got in the way, Fiance got a promotion, and he’s been living in New Jersey for the past month and a half while I’m still in St. Louis. This is the longest we’ve ever gone without seeing each other (previously it was when I was still in college and he had graduated – we usually went two weeks without seeing each other).
I do get to see him next week, which I’m excited about…but also dreading, because he’s only coming back in town for us to pack up and move.
It just sucks and I want to throw myself a pity party. Boo. Someone get me a tiny violin, please.
Post # 3
@StL.Ashley: totally been there! My FH and I did the long distance thing for a majority of our dating relationship. He was on a short assignment (National Guard) for our first Valentine’s Day and I was really sad. I know it’s not the same as a “dativersary”, but it feels the same. IT FREAKING SUCKS!!!! are y’all able to talk on the phone or on text message? Could y’all Skype that day and have a date that way? Having a meal together on Skype is a pretty cool way to have a long distance date.
Post # 4
Do something special for yourself and send him a sweet message, picture or video. Do the old timey picture thing at a later date — a belated celebration.
As long as you celebrate the day at some point in the future, you’ll be fine. These things just happen when you’re dealing with a 24 hour time frame.
Oh, I almost forgot to say, that pleasure can be found in the emotions you feel when you’re not able to be together because for reasons such as these. Think about how much you love him, how you felt on that day you became exclusive, think about how you’ll feel when you see him again. Show him that love and excitement through a message or picture as I stated above.
Post # 5
@StL.Ashley: A chorus of violins, my Fiance and I long distance dated the first year we were to gether. Anyone who thinks long distance dating is easy has no clue now hard it is. Can you at least talk on the phone? If you have the option we used to do ‘movie dates’. We’d each pick a movie we’d want to see and then we’d coordinate the show times as close as we could factoring in the time zone difference (ex. I’d see the movie at 7.30p in Denver and he’d see it in LA at 6.30p). Then we’d call and talk about it afterward. Since you are going to be leaving St. Louis soon to join him, why not grab a camera and do a walking tour of all the places in St. Louis that are special to you and the botho of you so you’ll have a record of the special places you’ve shared (kind of like a love map of your relationship) when both of you are married (and together!) in New Jersey!
Post # 6
Been there. SO and I were long distance (12 hours apart by car) for 3 years before I finally moved to Canada. This was the first year we were together for our anniversary and he said it wasnt important anymore because we had a civil ceremony in November.
I threw myself pity parties all the time!
I vote you just open a bottle of wine and drink it all day long while relaxing.
Post # 7
I would busy myself today doing as much packing up as I could without him. That way you might even have some unexpected free time to spend together next week!