Post # 1
I am 2 weeks from my vacation to Gatlinburg with my SO and I can’t concentrate. I hate that when a special occasion comes up I always think “is it going to be now”. Honestly we haven’t been together that long (8 months) but I have known I want to marry him since the second month and we have been talking about ” when we get married” since Thanksgiving.
My timeline is that we will be completely married and settled down by Nov 2014. I can wait as long as I need to as long as we are together but I am anxiously waiting for it to happen.
Little background (brief)- we are both older (in our 40s) and he has got to be the most open guy I have ever dated about where we are going. He talks all the time about us getting married and tells me he loves me all the time. He calls me every morning and ever evening and we basically talk through the whole day. Anyway, I am completely in love with this guy.
My question- How do I enjoy my time on vacation without thinking about whether he will or won’t propose?
Post # 3
Just try to be in the moment and tell yourself that he’s not going to ask while you’re on vacation.
Post # 4
I do the same thing on those occassions, just convince myself it *wont* be that day and try to focus on just having fun.
Post # 5
I will take that advice and do my best to try to go in with that mindset. I might stay off the board next week so that I don’t have it on my mind as much. (at least try not to)
Post # 6
Thats so cute lol You can try focusing on the plans you guys hsve or even grabbing a few puzzles to do like word searches while you guys are at the hotel room with downtime and not cuddling. Those keep me super super calm lol
Post # 7
@FSUGirl99: If I were you, I would focus now on packing really pretty outfits and planning out what to wear each day. When you’re actually on vacation, try to focus on your surroundings and take lots of pictures – that should preoccupy your mind so you focus on your experiences rather than a potential proposal.
Post # 8
A little update:
My boyfriend is apparently in “when we get married” mode. If I am going to make it through this vacation without freaking he needs to stop it. I swear, I heard it at least 6-7 times yesterday. We always talk about getting married but the “when we” scenerio is rare.
I can’t decide if he is trying to torture me or if he is just thinking about it more than usual.
I know- not a bad problem to have- but I don’t want to spend the whole vacation trying to figure it out and end up spoiling the fun we could have.
OK- sticking with the plan from above- preoccupy with planning for the trip and then LOTS of pictures when I get there. Also going to carry some word searches (love those things)
Sigh- just needed to vent to refocus.. thanks bees!