(Closed) totally drained and havent even planned a single thing yet.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I kind of felt a bit overwhelmed with all the options as well, but once I chose my date and venue, everything else kind of fell into place. 

I say find a place that you love the bones of the venue (all the things that exist there naturally), and work with that, and you can’t go wrong. 

As for not knowing what you need, I’ll tell you how we figured that out.  We pretty much made a “dream” guest list from us, and our parents and figured out what we could reasonably spend per person and still have enough in the budget to get all the other stuff we wanted.  If that number is unreasonably low… you need to cut.  Once we had a rough guest list, we pretty much went through person by person and made an educated guess over whether we thought they’d come.  We ended up only being off by about 10 people overall.

It gets easier, I promise!

Post # 5
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I hear ya, it can be very stressful. I’ve found that if you just focus on one thing at a time that tends to cut the stress done. Right now I’m focusing on the venue.


I am at a total loss for decorations, centrepeices, aisle decor, cake, dress etc etc, but I have a feeling it will all fall into place. You are right that one thing does affect the next, but I think a good starting point it to figure out how many people you want to invite and go from there because if you don’t know that its hard to venue search, budget and deal with all the other little details

Post # 6
9 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

I COMPLETELY understand!!  I am planning a Destination Wedding for August 2013 and feel like every day I am back to square one.  My biggest issue is trying to make it affordable for my close friends and family.  Funny how an even that is supposed to be about starting your life together becomes a whole lot about everyone else.  BUT we do want certain people to be there so we have an obligation to look out for their costs since we can’t afford to pay for their stay…

Did you ever decide where you are getting married?  I’ve been looking at Virgin Island threads on here and have seen you in a few of them.  I have been researchin VI for the past week and would really like to get married there, but not sure where (we also are unsure exactly how many people, but maybe around 20?)….I might reply to a wedding coordinator who has been emailing me because that might make things easier, but it is another expense!

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