(Closed) Totally frustrated today

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Lol I totally know how you feel, OP. hang in there, keep up with Mr. Bees plan! What are some things you’re going to do to focus on YOU?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I know how you feel too! And I gave up talking to my mother about it months ago! She never knows what to say so she just stares at me blanky and looks sad for me.. Then I start getting frustrated at her on top of my E wOrd frustration! Haha… So it’s not even worth it…

I guess all we can do is focus a little more on ourselves.. I’m not even going to say that it will take our minds off of the E word bc nothing ever does! 😉

I haven’t been doing too much mr stuff though.. I’m so routine oriented so it’s tough to break that.. But I’ve been doing my nails a lot and so far I’ve had a few date nights with one of my girlfriends.. I gotta try more!

Any ideas!? What are you ladies doing? 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

Unfortunately, there’s no talking to my mom either…although, I’ve really never talked to her about engagement and how much I want it. 

Whenever I talk about a fight or disagreement him and I’ve had, she just plants those SEEDS! Come on!!!! Tell me how you really feel Mom!

I know how you feel. I’ve just confided in myself and this place. Stay strong! You have a pretty good timeline!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@purpledaisies:  Hey, I see you’re in PA and in grad school, so I’d love to see if we’re going to the same school – so you can PM me if that’s not too creepy– did I ask this already? Names keep changing! Try to stay psyched for HAWAII! I’m long distance with So right now AND there’s no way we can afford a vacation ANYWHERE… so plan some excursions for when you’re there!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Whats your grad school program? I’m excited for my future grad school, it’ll be a 2 year accelerated program so that should keep me nice n busy too if I’m not engaged by then! (I HAD BETTER BE.)

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Omgbunnies:  Girl, you would totally think it would keep you busy, BUT YOU STILL HAVE TIME FOR FREAKING THE HELL OUT ABOUT LIFE. it sucks haha. I just don’t read as thoroughly as I should because I’m saving pics on my desktop of dresses that probably won’t even be available in 2 years hahaha.

Post # 11
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2224 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@love108:  HAHA! That’s me, I’ve had dressed bookmarked from a year ago. I know it won’t totally take up my attention… I will always find time to freak out about life. Lol

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I totally know how you feel! I had been dating my Fiance for 6 1/2 years when he took me ring shopping (his idea). Then a few months later I totally thought he would be proposing because there were so many great opportunities to do it. It was December and I was graduating from grad school, then there was Christmas Eve & Day, and then New Years Eve. I was crushed when December came and went and there was no proposal. I couldn’t get a job after graduation because I needed to wait for my state to approve my lisence, so for the next month (Jan) I obessed in my free time (which was pretty much ALL DAY) about getting engaged. I literally started going CrAzY! Thank my lucky stars he proposed in February, or else I may have needed to be taken to a mental health institution, lol. SO, I really know what you’re going through. It’s really hard being in a relationship for so so long, and then still having to wait when you know you are ready. My only advice is based purely on my own experience, and that would be to let him know that just because you get engaged doesn’t mean you have to have a wedding right away. I say this because I am LOVING just being engaged (finally!). I think my Fiance would have proposed sooner if he knew I wasn’t going to rush us straight into a wedding. I don’t know if this is how you feel, or if it will help speed up your engagement, but it’s worth thinking about 🙂 GOOD LUCK!!!!

Post # 15
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Worker bee

@purpledaisies:  

 

It’s so frustrating, we obsess over all of this and chances are great that the guy doesn’t have this on his mind at all right now.

I’ve also decided to start focusing more on my life again and less on my possible future engagement, I’ve been given a timeline of our second anniversary which is in eight months but I’m trying my hardest not to bring it up anymore. It’s always a pleasant conversation when we talk about it, there’s been nothing negative, but I don’t want to turn into THAT girl which is what I’m starting to I feel like.

I’m 35, I’ve been dating for 20 years basically and now I’ve finally found the one I want to be with and I’m having a really hard time being patient. We’ve looked at rings and he knows what I want but now I’ve been looking at dresses and thinking about possible venues and I’ve even been thinking of whether it will be a spring or fall wedding depending on when he proposes – I need to stop.

Luckily when I feel frustrated I turn to running so I’ve been getting some good workouts in! I’m also going to throw myself more into my business so I can make more money, and do some shopping just for me, since I can’t really think about a wedding dress at this point I’m going to think about dresses and outfits I can buy for some upcoming vacations and things I want just for myself that I don’t need “permission” to purchase.

 

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