(Closed) Totally not what I expected

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: How do you feel about your wedding compared to how you expected to feel
    Happier and more excited than I thought I would be : (25 votes)
    35 %
    More nervous than I thought I would be : (8 votes)
    11 %
    Not as happy and excited as I thought I would be : (15 votes)
    21 %
    I feel the way I expected to feel about it. : (17 votes)
    24 %
    I'm stressed about planning, but other than that I'm excited : (5 votes)
    7 %
    I'm not excited about the wedding, I'm excited about marriage : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    None of the answers fit.

    I wasn’t as excited as I thought… but I was extremely happy during the wedding day. I was exceptionally calm up until the walk down the aisle. I was more nervous than I thought I would be during the ceremony. So I was a mixed bag: super calm, not that excited, but very happy.

    Post # 4
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    1425 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I never was excited at the thought of getting married. Let me re-phrase: the thought of the wedding. I knew there would be set-backs given my parents’ sate-of-health, money woes, etc. I knew it would not be easy balancing it all (taking care of them). I do add, though, that I’m even less happier than I thought I’d be because of FI’s father and how he’s ruining things.

    Post # 5
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    17 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’ve been WAYYYYYY more stressed in planning it than I thought I would be… but now that it’s only a week away I am happy and excited again!

    It does boggle my mind how young couples are expected to essentially become event coordinators with no experience and often very limited funds.

    Post # 7
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    1544 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    i voted not as happy and excited but thats really just about planning. I’m excited about marrying the love of my life but wedding planning is just ruining all the excitement

    Post # 8
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    155 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    I voted not as happy and excited. But right now I think it has to do with how far away my wedding is. Yes I’m planning but it almost feels like its not real. There are moments I get super excited, so I have a feeling once it gets closer I will get more excited. Just right now it feels like a far off dream.

    Post # 9
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    2638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2006

    Wedding-planning was stressful and chaotic for me. I didn’t feel very blissful. I thought it would’ve been happier, more exciting . . . but it was just having to make one expensive decision after another.

    Post # 10
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    1587 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    As hard as it is to explain, I’ve been extremely overwhelmed and underwhelmed at the same time. I’m overwhelmed with the fact that I want it to be perfect and I want it to be here already! Fi and I have been together for almost 5 years now and I can’t wait! The anticipation is killing me! Lol also overwhelmed with anxiety about everything.

     

    Ive been underwhelmed with the amount of support I have. 🙁 its really sad because I feel more alone than ever and I figured this would be a time where I’d feel like the center of the universe. Now I don’t want to sound concieded at all, and I don’t want to be everyone universe however I simply mean that my own bridesmaids don’t seem like they even care that I’m getting married… :(. Oh well. 7and a half more months to go!

    Post # 11
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    964 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I stressed in the beginning, but got a lot accomplished early since I wanted to be ahead of school (going to school and working full time). My focus has been on school and I haven’t had much time to reflect on the wedding, but I happily reflect up my upcoming marriage. School finished 2 weeks ago, so now it’s the parties and stuff and not happy, nervous, excited or anything. Now that I’m 3 weeks away and the focus is more on getting FH and his boys moved in. I’m hoping to get more excited and I think that will come as time approaches.

    Post # 12
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @daybyday:  Exactly, all the excitement of the fun things (like picking a color scheme and cake flavor and dress) get overshadowed by the fact that the cake and the decor and the dress cost an arm and a leg. It’s hard to be excited (rather than stressed) when you have nothing left in your bank account and a million moving parts to keep track of.

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I felt all kinds of weird things the whole weekend.

    Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner I was stressed, very strange/ill-feeling, almost annoyed.  I also don’t like our families very much most of the time. ha

    Day of I was AWESOME and happy at private bridal party yoga, then started freaking out a little at salon, then completely nervous/anxious in the bridal suite.

    First look got an ugly cry out of me, but then I got this huge wave of relief and calm. It was so good to see him before the ceremony!

    From that point forward it was happy happy joy joy. I loved every minute, I let it all sink in, I took so many mental pictures… it was all good.

     

    And now that it’s all over I feel THE BEST out of this whole process. I love being married and I love knowing that it’s done and that I’m now a wife. 

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