Totally overwhelmed by OPKs…need help figuring this out.

posted 6 months ago in TTC
Post # 31
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Bee Keeper

hafh2016 :  hahaha – I think if you do an OPK with FMU and then a second one as soon as you get home after work, you should be okay. (Although I have been known to go through five in a single day when I feel my surge is coming on….but I have issues lol.)

Post # 32
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Helper bee

I’ve been using opks for 6 cycles now. My advice is to bd every other day til you get the positive opk and then continue that til 3 days afterwards to be “safe.” 

Post # 33
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Bee Keeper

Also, fwiw, I ovulate on the same day that I get my positive OPK. Like it turns positive in the afternoon/early evening and the next morning my temp is up, indicating O has occurred. Meaning I ovulate probably not even 12 hours after my LH surge begins. So it’s also important to BD before your OPK goes positive…like, if I waited on the OPK I’d miss like 90% of my fertile window. Basically the moment you notice EWCM start BD-ing early and often!

Post # 35
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Helper bee

hafh2016 :  first morning urine, egg white cervical mucous. 

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee

tillymac :  Well that was rather insensitive. While I don’t think you have to apologize for the fact that you and your husband conceived on your first cycle TTC, I think you could handle your responses with a bit more tact. 

I understand that it’s hard to not bring up the fact that you conceived on the first cycle – especially when sharing your experience with others – because we conceived our first cycle as well, I think you could do so with a touch more sensitivity. We ended up having a miscarriage that cycle, so I have an inkling at how painful losses can be. 

I think the important thing to remember is that just because something worked for you, doesn’t mean that’s “the” way to do it. Lots and lots of people have lots and lots of sex during their cycle, in their fertile window and around ovulation, and still don’t conceive – it’s not all about having lots and lots of sex. Sure, can’t (naturally) conceive without it, but that doesn’t mean sex alone is “the” answer.

For example, my husband and I had sex once – just once – the day of ovulation when we conceived our son. So clearly, having lots and lots of sex and BD’ing every day, then twice a day isn’t the only way to accomplish conception. I thought we were out that cycle because I ovulated mere hours before we had sex. We were very fortunate to conceive again so soon after the MC, and I count my blessings every day – especially when I find myself complaining about a foot in my rib cage or the 50 million trips to the bathroom. I fully understand that loads of ladies, even internet strangers, would KILL to have a foot in their rib cage, pee 50 million times a day, or feel like a beached whale unable to get up because that means they’re pregnant and their little one is on their way. 

I think you’ll find it’s much easier in life to have a touch of compassion, whether for “strangers on the other side of the world,” or people in your own social circle. Life is hard enough as it is, showing a bit of empathy can change the tide in a lot of ways. Try it on for size sometime, you might be shocked at the benefits you’ll receive in return. 

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee

hafh2016 :  

FMU = First morning urine (most concentrated, unless you like to drink a whole lot at night, so more hormone theoretically).

SMU = Second morning urine.

EWCM = Egg white cervical mucus, which is the most friendly for the swimmers to move in and live in. 

Post # 38
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Busy bee

tillymac :  wow. You are an absolute garbage human. I tried to give you the benefit of doubt and assume you were just ignorant to how you act and make people feel but you’ve clearly shown otherwise. 

I dont care that you’ve terminated pregnancies but to lie and call them losses is ridiculous. You cannot not equate choosing not to have a child as the same as someone losing a child they wanted so desperately. 

FWIW I have zero issues with you conceiving on your first try. It’s truly amazing and you were very lucky. But there is absolutely zero reason you need to bring it up as often as you do. Look around. Enough people have brought it to your attention that there’s a clear problem here. 

And don’t pretend you don’t care what some internet strangers think. That literally made me laugh at out. Look at your post history. You’re an attention whore if I ever saw one. I didn’t need to stalk you to get those facts about you. I’ve just read the threads where you drone on and on about how “awesome” you are. If you want people to leave you alone I suggest you stop posting bullshit on the ttc threads considering you never really had to try anyways and your advice is crap like “just have sex. It’s that simple! I did it on my first try”

Maybe it’s time for some real self reflection. Especially before you’re a mom. 

Post # 39
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Busy bee

MsPlucky :  thank you for your post. I always value your input in these threads. Thank you for not abandoning the ttc boards! 

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
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hafh2016 :  And not everyone gets egg white cervical mucus! I don’t at all. So you can’t go off that tooooo much.

So I agree with Prism that when you think you might be close to ovulating, starting in the second week of your cycle to be safe (cycle day 10? 11? 13? depends on how long your cycle is), have sex every other day to cover all your bases. And then definitely the day that you get a positive OPK test, and for a couple days afterwards.

if you haven’t read Taking Charge of Your Fertility, that will help a lot of this make sense! 🙂

Post # 41
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Busy bee

KittyYogi :  Taking Charge of Your Fertility is a great recommendation! Especially if you want to learn more! 

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee

TiggersMitts :  I try to remember what little bit of anxiousness I felt and multiply that for others. We had only a fraction of the heartache and stress of others. Doesn’t make it easier, but we have our happy ending (thus far) and I truly hope and pray everyone has theirs as well. 

I enjoy being able to offer my support and encouragement when appropriate but try not to overwhelm the boards too much. I thoroughly enjoy you ladies and am quite invested in your journies! 

Post # 43
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Busy bee

MsPlucky :  we are still so invested in yours. I can’t wait until you have your little babe!! 

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