(Closed) Totally stupid post but anyone else afraid they are not attractive enough for

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I definitely worried because I am plus sized. What helped me was to look at my photographer’s full portfolio and look at complete weddings from some of her plus size couples. Those couples looked just as happy, in love, and radiantly beautiful as some of her more model-esque clients, which helped me relax a bit. And, in the end, we were beyond thrilled with our wedding photography. I may be plus size, but the photos show a glowing bride, not a plus size woman who is a bit insecure.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Personally, I don’t believe in uglyness.  Cosmetics, dye, waxing, and the right hairstyle do AMAZING things.  (I could show you pictures of me in high school – I was soooo not pretty.  Makeup and long hair are life savers.) 

Are you plus size?  Make SURE the photographer stands ABOVE you when she takes pictures, even if it means standing on stool.  Most of my e-pics are trash because my photographer stood below us.  We definitely switched for the wedding. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I know I won’t end up on SMP…I’ll learn to be ok with it

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I totally get you.  I photograph horribly and I am still worried that for our after wedding shots (we didn’t get any at our wedding, long story) that the photographer will not be able to do what it takes to make them good.

But I do have to say that I have seen ALOT of wedding photos on the bee in my two years here, and I have yet to not see a beautiful bride.  I have seen some not great photography, but not one homely bride.

If you have a great photographer that you love her work, you will get exactly what you want out of the photos.  (And photoshop is AMAZING)  I have seen pics of you, you have nothing to worry about.  You are going to be perfect in your photos!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Oh – also practice faces in your mirror – seriously.  Stand and practice happy smiling faces until you find ones that you like.  Practicing poses is also a great idea, too!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

I totally understand. My photog is amazing. Her images are on the wedding blogs and in a few magazines pretty consistently. I’m not young and tan. I’m 34, with red hair and very pale skin. I don’t feel attractive enough for the blogs, which kills me because I’m a blogger (not just on the Bee).

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Ok…so not to be weird or anything, but I just looked at pictures of you in your gown on previous posts.  Lady, you are GORGEOUS and have nothing to worry about!  You have rockin’ curves, a contagious smile, and are anything but “homely.”  And these were just in snapshots…not in professional photos!  I understand where you are coming from, because I definitely had the same insecurities before my wedding, and it took me a bit to warm up to some of my photos.  But, as others on here have said, you will absolutely GLOW on your big day.  I’ve yet to see a bride that was anything less than beautiful.  πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I definitely understand.  I fell in love with our photographers from the moment I saw a wedding they’d shot at what turned out to be the venue we ended up choosing.  They do a LOT of fashion photography, and their blog is full of photo shoots with models.  They often times will grab a model and some props, and head to a cotton field or our state fair and just shoot to get pictures to increase their portfolio.  I hadn’t given it much thought until our e-session this past weekend.  I was like “oh god, they’re going to be shooting us average Joe’s after doing all these shoots with models”, but the bottom line is this: they are professionals and they know what they’re doing.  Our pictures turned out great because of that.  No, I don’t exactly think I gave them what the 5’10” blonde professional model had given them in the shoot they did the week before ours, but they blogged more of our photos than they had any other couple they had shot.  I wouldn’t at all feel like you’re not attractive enough…she’s a photographer for a reason; she loves to photograph people!! After all, if you love your pictures (and feel lucky to have the photographer you respect and admire so much), isn’t that the most important part?

Additionally, I’ll tell you this: I hadn’t realized JUST HOW MANY PLACE our e-pics would go after our photogs blogged them.  To be honest, it kind of made me a little uncomfortable for a second.  I am a pretty avid stayer-out-of-pictures so there are not many pics of me that I leave tagged on FB.  All of the sudden, there are ~100 pics of Fiance and I on our photogs blog, personal FB page, company FB page, pinterest, etc.  But they are pro pics and they made us look good, so at least I have that comfort!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

@unixfairy: can you share some of your pics?? I bet they are gorgeous!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

As unphotogenic as you may be, I can almost guarantee that your photographer has photographed people uglier than you.  πŸ™‚  I don’t mean it as an insult, but there’s no such thing as “good enough” for a photographer.  Besides, it is their job to make sure you come out the  best possible!

Most photographers aren’t so shallow, either.  haha  πŸ˜€  Wedding photographers photograph real people and real weddings, not models all the time.  Don’t worry, you’ll look great on your wedding day.  πŸ™‚   

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

@unixfairy: I’m actually kind of freaking out because I’m posting a blog post on the Bee on Monday that will have a picture of me in it.  People usually say they like my hair because it’s an interesting color and there’s a lot of it, but I’m not beautiful.

I have fine self-esteem…I’m accomplished in my career, I’m educated, I’m outgoing, and am overall happy.  I just know that I don’t fit the image that we’ve deemed attractive in America.

Now, when I’m in France, I’m pretty darn popular.  People say the French are rude, but I find them far more open minded and vocal about beauty. 

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