Post # 16
My birthday is the one day of the year that I’m completely selfish and do exactly what I want. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. So tell her no, it’s your day that your going to spend pampering yourself.
Post # 17
This definitely puts you in a tough spot! I think it’s understandable to say no. I would just be prepared for your relationship with her to potentially not be the same afterward, and some potential awkwardness in future social gatherings between you and her and your Fiance and and her Fiance. What does your Fiance think of the situation?
Post # 18
So your fi was not going to be at your 21st party because he was best man at this wedding? You were OK with that and that is why you accepted being a bridesmaid? So neither of you would be at your party ? Or is it a daytime wedding that you will both leave to go to your party? Or you were never even a guest before, even though your fi was in the wedding party? I’m confused …..
Apart from any of all that, I would not ever accept a ‘invitation’ to be a bridesmaid that consisted of “She didn’t ask me, she just said congratulations and handed me my gift.” Congratualtions? really…. !
You seem to have a perfect and real excuse , it is your 21st, so all you have to do is to say you’ve thought about it and realise you shouldn’t have said yes, but that you were taken by surprise.