(Closed) Tough (emotional) diamond question – need advice

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll:
    Sell them, in general, they have nothing but bad memories. : (38 votes)
    28 %
    Sell them, start fresh; make new memories even if the wedding band had good memories : (57 votes)
    42 %
    Re-set the diamonds in your wedding band : (31 votes)
    23 %
    Re-set the diamonds in his wedding band : (3 votes)
    2 %
    Other, please explain : (8 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3000 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Personally If I were you, I wouldn’t use any part of the old rings for my new set. I wouldn’t want even the slightest bit of association with the previous relationship.

    However, talk to your Fiance and see how he feels.

    Post # 4
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    1239 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @Anonymbee:  Could you put them into a right hand ring? Or earrings? I agree on not having them as part of your wedding set. Selling them would be an option too, since they’re a set ring, they could resell it as well.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2433 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I think it depends on the emotional connection you feel with the old ring. Would you think about your ex-husband or the people who gifted you the ring everytime you saw the stones? Since you’re not completely reusing the band, it’s fine if you and Fiance are okay with it.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1024 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    epp. I would not want any tokens of the relationship. I would try to trade them or sell them to put towards the new ring

    Post # 8
    Member
    3227 posts
    Sugar bee

    @Anonymbee:  I don’t see anything wrong with it if you agree. BUT I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable because it would remind me where they came from or the “reason” I had them in the first place.

    I was married once before- also to a piece of scum of the earth- and I’m now married to the man that was meant for me and I wish I had waited also. Anyway, in my first marriage I had a 1 carat princess cut solitaire that I ADORED and I almost considered using it at first to save us money and my husband seemed okay with it at first but I felt uncomfortable after a while so I didn’t go with it.

    Whatever decision you make just be sure you will be comfortable wearing it and the diamonds don’t bring you bad memories.

    Post # 11
    Member
    3227 posts
    Sugar bee

    @Anonymbee:  Trust me you are not alone. Most people might not want to admit it. I’m glad I could help Smile

    Post # 12
    Member
    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I voted other before I read that you don’t wear much jewelry in general.. I’d say put them into earrings or something, if you think more about the friends that gave them to you when you see it. I think it was a really sweet gesture 🙂

    On the other hand, if it only remings you of your previous marriage and you have no use for any other jewelry, sell them. They probably wont bring you a lot of money, but maybe someone else can enjoy them. I don’t think you should put them in your new weddingband.

    PS: I’m so glad you found someone who makes you happy! Congrats!

    Post # 13
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    1015 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I would see how your Fiance feels about this. If it doesn’t bother him, then go for it. Maybe the pretty diamonds will finally be a symbol of something beautiful.

    Post # 14
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    3885 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If you don’t want them any more, then get rid of them. But the resale value on rings is pretty low; you’re not likely to get much money for them. If you’re not desperate for cash, you might be happier if you donate them to one of the shops/charities that help low-income couples have weddings that they’d otherwise not be able to afford. If there isn’t one in your area, ask your church, the local cancer treatment center, the veterans’ outreach, or other community organizations if they have someone who would appreciate a gift like that.

    No one makes money selling scrap gold except the scrap gold dealers but the warm feeling of helping someone else have a little bit of their dream will probably be with you for decades.

    Post # 16
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    1595 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Of course you can recycle the diamonds…I can’t understand the “superstition” behind reusing an old stone. If everyone’s relationship was based off of superstitious beliefs than why bother getting married?!–the second a black cat crosses you, you just might die…many women on here don’t even realize their diamonds are recycled!

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