(Closed) Tough situation..

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

She was totally out of line.  Even if they HAD been your friends, you had good reason not to be there, and her comment was atrocious.  Let’s hope she was super drunk (not that that excuses her behavior, but it does help to explain it).  I would still call her though, just to be the bigger person and because she clearly isn’t going to reach out any time soon.

Post # 4
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2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Your mom being in the hospital is certainly reason to not attend the party! I don’t know what is up with her…I would honestly just talk to her and figure it out…

Post # 5
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2007 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would call her.  And explain exactly what you just explained to us.  If she is still upset, then she is a b*tch and not worth being your friend. A true friend will understand.  Is it possible she just really doesn’t understand the severity of the situation?  And also add that since it was mostly his friends, you felt it would be okay if you were absent under the circumstances.

Post # 6
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3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think things may have turned out a lot differently if you had called her instead of texting. Texting is one-way communication: you have no idea if your message has been delivered, let alone read, or how quickly. You could be waiting for a reply and getting more and more anxious while your message has been floating around in Verizon-land for hours and hasn’t reached its recipient. And assuming that it gets delivered properly on time and is actually read when it’s delivered, there’s still the question of how it’s recieved. No matter how many smileys or frowny faces you use, you can’t properly convey emotion in a text the same way it’s done with a voice.

I am not trying to blame this on you, because it sounds like your friend has some kind of bee in her bonnet, but you may want to call her and try to work things out. You don’t know if your message was recieved in the spirit with which it was written, so it’s worth at least a phone call to clear the air. For all you know, she may be upset that you couldn’t be bothered to pick up the phone and actually  call her.

And the rest of us can try to remember too that phones were used for calling WAY before they were used for texting, and in many cases a call is more appropriate.

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