- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Hi Bees. This will probably be long, I apologize. I have been a long time bee, but I decided to make a new account because there were a few people on the boards that knew me in real life – sometimes it was just awkward knowing that they probably read a lot of my stuff. Ya’ know?
So, I am in a bit of a predicament right now.
It was my birthday a few weeks ago. One of my good friends is in a relationship, and her SO’s birthday is 3 days before mine. So, for the past few years, we have all went out in the city to celebrate our birthdays jointly. This year we were planning on doing the same. However, the entire guest list ended up being HIS friends – because sadly, none of my friends were able to make it out that night. Which I felt was somewhat awkward, because I would be celebrating my birthday with a bunch of strangers.
This is not even the problem though.
My mother has been ill for about 2 months now, she was in the hospital for awhile and has been off work on disability. We are still unsure what is going on with her, because the doctors have not been able to properly diagnose her. The morning of my birthday, she went into the hospital for several more tests. I wanted to stay with her in the hospital, because the doctor said we should be getting her results back and he would speak with all of us. Obviously I’d want to be there, right?
Well, I texted my friend throughout the day and told her that I was at the hospital with my mother, and I was unsure whether or not I’d be able to make it out. She didn’t seem happy, but she said she understood. I texted her awhile later and apologized, but explained to her that my mother was still in the hospital and we were all still waiting on her results.
My friend said, “okay.. well let me know if there’s anyway you can still make it.”
Then, around 9:30pm (they all started drinking at 8pm) my friend texted me and said – “So you aren’t even going to come to your own birthday party? Real cool!”
I never responded.
She and I usually talk everyday, and we have not said a word to each other since that night. I am upset that she would say that to me, under the circumstances. And I guess she is upset with me, because she thought I blew her off?
Anyway, my bridal shower is in two weeks and she is a bridesmaid in my wedding. So I am assuming she will be coming to the shower. I am just wondering, should I try to contact her now and work things out? or just continue to wait it out?
Side note: My mother is still not doing well, and my friend knows this. However, she has not even bothered to ask me once if I’m okay. Or heck, even how my mother is doing.
I have been posting things on facebook about my mom recently, and asking people to please pray for my family. Before, my friend would comment to tell me she was keeping us in her prayers. Since this happened – she has said nothing.
I just need an outsiders perspective on this. Obviously it’s hard for me because I am filled with emotions at this time, so please.. I could someone elses advice.
Thank you in advance.
(Also, I added the tidbit about the party being all of her SO’s friends, because it would be easier to understand her being upset with me if the party was just for me and all of my friends were there to celebrate with me. However, that was not the case.)