Post # 1
What’s that saying…pride goes before a fall? I thought that I was doing so well, just a happy excited about all of the progress that was being made. And now I’m near tears! Well…just a bit crabby. I guess that’s what I get for thinking I was above all of it.
So he asked my parents for their blessing and all went wonderfully. Even though I knew about it, he told my parents that I did not, just because it seemed easier that way. Shockingly, my mom never said a word to me!
Now I feel like he’s just playing with me! He says there is no ring purchased but he knows the one that I’m desperate for. He keeps asking about other rings and my answer is always, “When you find The One you stop looking! Just like dating!”
Last night he says he told my parents when he’s going to ask and then two seconds later he says he doesn’t know when he’s going to do it. He’s trying to throw me off of the trail, I know, but it’s just too much!
I tried to explain to him how unfair it feels to not have control over the most important part of your life. He had promised no more ring talk until it actually happens but, lo and behold, he’s emailing me photos of rings!
I was suspicious about our trip this weekend, but now apparently our plans got messed up so I’m sure it’s not happening. I know I need to just relax and let it happen, but it’s so darn hard!
Sorry for the length…a bit of a ramble. Trying to turn my frown upside down!
Post # 3
I’m really sorry that this bit of power seems to be going to his head. I wonder why he asked your parents if he didn’t have the ring? Maybe he already has it and is trying to throw you off, like you said. Or maybe your dream ring is more expensive than he thought it would be, I don’t know. I’m sorry that you’re waiting period has been so rough 🙁 it isn’t easy…but in the end you’ll live happily ever after and forget the “ring drama”
Post # 4
My parents live within driving distance but when we visit it’s just far away enough to need to stay over. The thought process was that since we weren’t sure when we would see them again he would do it while we were there. He also wanted to do it in person, instead of over the phone.
My mom was asking about our weekend trip so maybe he’s just trying to throw it off, or maybe she’s just making conversation. My dad said something about coming down to visit in the near future. When I asked what “near future” meant my mom finally clarified with “before the end of summer.” They rarely visit, so that caught my attention. Who knows. I know you’re supposed to enjoy the surprise, but I HATE surprises!
Post # 5
Sounds like he has it and he’s just trying to throw you off. The part about emailing pictures of rings to you sounds like he’s overcompensating because he accidentally told you too much before and now he has to backtrack.
He has it. It’s happening this weekend.
Post # 6
Ahhh, I know this feeling way too well. I, too, have experienced this down to each detail you described. In fact, I was almost positive that our 4th of July vacation was going to be IT… but, I am still waiting. :/ It’s so, so, hard and I find myself more and more crabby as time passes, which I know can only be making things worse.
Good luck, I’m rooting for you.
Post # 7
It would be an awful lot of work if he is just trying to throw me off. He basically would have had to contact our friend, told her he was sening a decoy email, written said fake email, and then had her respond and then forwarded it on to me this morning. The part about our weekend plans getting messed up would be easier to fake – his sister will now be joining us, with her children, AND her kids’ friends. Basically, I think that our trip (which was just going to be a trip anyway and not his proposal scheme) has now become a trip including family and a bunch of pre-teens. Oh, how the high hopes have fallen!