- 4 months ago
I need advice about how to ‘break up’ with a friend. Has anyone here ever broken up with a friend before? I’ve had friends who have stuck with me since we were young and others who have drifted but I’ve never had to end a friendship before.
I read on here recently a post about someone who didn’t go to their friend’s birthday party. The messages could have been written by my friend(obviously weren’t her…but that’s kind of what my friend is like). She’s quite self absorbed, rarely congratulates me when things go well (by not asking – she never asks about my business, my Fiance, wedding plans), when she messages me it’s always ‘poor me this happened. Today was horrible’ etc etc and is competing with me to have had the best day of the worst day. She’s very insecure and doesn’t have many friends. To be honest after reading this last thread it made me evaluate everything with her and I feel like maybe subconsciously I have stayed friends with her because I feel sorry for her (she doesn’t have many friends..and I realise I’m nearly all she has). That sounds awful now I’ve said it out loud. This isn’t an issue which is recent…this has been like this for a few years. She expects me to put a lot of effort into our friendship and gets pissy/passive aggressive when I can’t meet her expectations. She’s very high maintenance. When she upsets me she doesn’t apologise and just messages me afterwards like nothing is wrong.
Basically in my old age (haha) I’ve come to realise that I don’t need friends like this. She brings me down a lot and I feel a friendship shouldn’t be this hard and shouldn’t be this much work.
My question is….what do I do? I don’t want to just ignore her, but if I say how i feel she will 100% get defensive or passive agressive and ignore me/block me (she’s done that to friends before).