Post # 1
My wedding is a month and a half out and things are more or less ready to go.
I had asked guests to RSVP by last weekend, and we now have most of our numbers confirmed. However I have two households (1 family friends, 1 my cousin) who we haven’t heard from.
I did send out a reminder email. When the date had passed by a few days, I gave them a call. I left a message for both.
Email and phone are the only two ways I have to contact either of them. How should I go about making my next contact?
I’m wondering if I don’t hear back by phone if it’s acceptable to text? Time zones are also at play so it might actually be easier to receive a message and text me back rather than wondering if it’s okay to call.
I have some things left to order that do depend on our final numbers – so I am really hoping to get an answer soon.
Post # 2
I think if you’ve waited til the deadline has passed and followed up with emails and phonecalls then text of messenger is absolutely fine. I would say (politely!) that you need confirmed numbers for catering and if you haven’t heard anything by xxx then you will assume they’re not coming.
Post # 3
Waiting for wedding RSVPs is the absolute worst! Just do yourself a favor and text them. Sometimes it’s easier for people to shoot a quick text saying “sorry can’t come” even if it is rude. I would also have a little give with final numbers. Some people will have last minute issues and not show and some people will show up because their previous plans changed. Be prepared. It’s stressful and annoying but it’ll work out.
Just a thought: is the cousin younger and on social media? Might be easier to send a fb/ig message that way you can see if they actually saw the message. I wouldn’t do this with family friends though.
Post # 4
Thanks bees! I’ll send them texts.
@runsauce : it is the absolute worst. We are definitely accommodating for a few unexpecteds, but these two households account for seven people, so it does affect even the “buffer zone” numbers. The cousin is older and doesn’t use social media (I did send some friends a Facebook message and it worked well).
Post # 5
We are dealing with the same things. We’ve even seen these people and they say “we’re coming we just need to send the RSVP” and I’m like, just tell me what you want to eat and be done with it, but they wont. As of Monday we were missing 100 responses, and we decided to contact family before the RSVP date (this friday) Most are not coming, but whatever. For the ones I still haven’t heard from, if I don’t hear by Friday, I’m going to contact them and say that if I don’t hear by Monday I will need to assume they aren’t coming.
Post # 6
ctbee818 : I feel your pain.
A bunch of of people told us they probably couldn’t make it (it’s a destination thing) but that was months ago and they never really confirmed. We did manage to chase most down
I’m assuming these two households won’t be able to make it – but want to know in case they will.
We do have a few friends who are genuine maybes (one close friend even asked if she can make it work last minute if she can just bring her own food! I told her of course because I’d rather have her there) and I’m accounting for those potentially showing up. But at least they explained where they were at and why they couldn’t give us a definite answer.
Post # 7
I’d shoot them a text just saying “Hey. I haven’t recieved an RSVP from you yet, so I just wanted to check in. I have to give the caterer and venue final numbers stat, so if I don’t hear from you today or tomorrow I will count you as a no. Thanks!”