Tracking down RSVPs

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I think if you’ve waited til the deadline has passed and followed up with emails and phonecalls then text of messenger is absolutely fine.  I would say (politely!) that you need confirmed numbers for catering and if you haven’t heard anything by xxx then you will assume they’re not coming.

Post # 3
77 posts
Worker bee

Waiting for wedding RSVPs is the absolute worst!  Just do yourself a favor and text them.  Sometimes it’s easier for people to shoot a quick text saying “sorry can’t come” even if it is rude.  I would also have a little give with final numbers.  Some people will have last minute issues and not show and some people will show up because their previous plans changed.  Be prepared.  It’s stressful and annoying but it’ll work out.

Just a thought: is the cousin younger and on social media?  Might be easier to send a fb/ig message that way you can see if they actually saw the message.  I wouldn’t do this with family friends though.

Post # 5
517 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

We are dealing with the same things.  We’ve even seen these people and they say “we’re coming we just need to send the RSVP” and I’m like, just tell me what you want to eat and be done with it, but they wont.  As of Monday we were missing 100 responses, and we decided to contact family before the RSVP date (this friday)  Most are not coming, but whatever.  For the ones I still haven’t heard from, if I don’t hear by Friday, I’m going to contact them and say that if I don’t hear by Monday I will need to assume they aren’t coming.

Post # 7
3093 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Super annoying!

I’d shoot them a text just saying “Hey. I haven’t recieved an RSVP from you yet, so I just wanted to check in. I have to give the caterer and venue final numbers stat, so if I don’t hear from you today or tomorrow I will count you as a no. Thanks!”

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