(Closed) Tracking your spouse

posted 9 years ago in Technology
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

I saw this on Yahoo either today or yesterday and it is pretty crazy… but I wonder how great he feels now that his marriage is ending and everyone gets to read about its demise on the internet. Not sure I would download that app… not because I don’t want my Fiance knowing where I am all the time ( hello little stops to the mall… hehe) but because it seems like a total invastion of privacy in a world where everything is so accessible anyways!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I heard about that article yesterday I believe, but I didn’t read the entire thing. I would never track my SO. If there’s trust issues, then there shouldnt be a relationship, or work needs to be done by both parts if they want to keep that relationship. I do feel bad for the guy though :/ thats horrible.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think maybe he had a feeling something was up.  If I had a gut feeling, i’d check it out.  There still may be time to save the marriage.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

“I got my wife a new 4s and loaded up Find My Friends without her knowing,” he wrote. “She told me she was at her friend’s house in the east village.”

But the app showed that the wife was in Manhattan.

 

Uh, am I the only one confused by the wording here? The east village IS in Manhattan.

Anyways, I think that’s really creepy. Obviously there were some other issues going on in that relationship that made him suspect something, but I still don’t think it makes it okay to track or follow someone….

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

DH and I both put this app on our phone but it was still real buggy and wouldn’t ever reset or load, so we took it off.

We didn’t really think of it as invasive or anything like that, but we also have our friends, family, and even pastors who are “check-in” addicts of fb so I guess we’ve just gotten used to the idea. lol

 

ETA: it seems as though as the guy that did this already suspected the infidelity and just needed something to prove it. Which if you’re suspecting an unfaithful spouse it’s MUCH easier to find out for sure than it it to just keep fretting about it.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

That’s pretty crazy, but seemed to work in his favor (somewhat, anyway- it has to be horrible finding out like that). I personally have never done anything like this, nor would I ever- he’s simply not that sneaky or very much of a dishonest person in general. Plus, I’d be pissed if I found out he was spying on me.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

Thats a toughie!!

I am a realtor and my job can be dangerous. my SO & I have the find my Iphone app that allows him to locate me anywhere & vise versa. I am okay with that. He isn’t the type to keep an eye on me.. I don’t think.. : P

& I have never once actually used mine to see where he is. I totally trust him. 

we do have Iphones and we both have the find a friend app but I have put nobody in mine. (I have it for future use while mall shopping with girlfriends… I am directionally challenged!!) lol

He has it with 2 buddies in it because they are children and like to play!!  lol

One the flip side… if you have nothing to hide my opinion is you shouldn’t care. but if they feel the need to do it,  you have a problem.

but for cheater, cheaters. ya for the good guy. you deserve to know!! ;P

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Good god no!  

i trust him completely,  and there are times i am shopping with friends and i wouldnt want him to know my every move.  this is big brother gone mad. 

I know someone that tracks her husband,  i think its pretty sick to be honest. 

If my Fiance says he is going to the shop,  then thats where he is going,  if he ACTUALLY isnt going to the shop…..and if he has to lie to me about where he is, or if he is doing something behind my back,  then its already too late. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

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@TinyTina:  That’s what I thought.  East Village and Manhattan are the same place?

Anyway, this kind of thing is just creepy and ridiculous.  If you have to track down your spouse behind their back, there are obviously very unhealthy trust issues going on.  Well, I guess this guy DID have a reason not to trust his wife, after all.  But, I would never do this to Fiance.  I know where he is at all times because he chooses to tell me.  I, of course, believe him and have no reason to question what he tells me.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That’s pretty crazy. I would feel weird being tracked by anyone, even though Fiance always knows where I am anyway. And I know where he is. It’s just an unnecessary invasion of privacy, that’s what trust is for. I don’t think this was the right way for him to go about this.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

It sucks for that dude, but it works for us. Mr. LK and I use a similar function on google maps for android. It’s really helpful for timing dinner. I can check to see where he is in his commute home, and then time dinner so that it’s ready when he gets home from work, all hot and fresh and smelling delicious. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@tlr: That makes sense! I can see how that would be a good thing. But overall, I find services like this to be way too stalker-friendly.

What can I say? I watch Criminal Minds. I know how these things work ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

I think he installed the app because he already had an idea that she was cheating. I would never do this to DH, nor would he do this to me. Then again, we don’t lie about where we are or what we’re doing.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Its cool until you have something to hide ๐Ÿ˜‰

Truth is, your phone has been a source of tracking and history for years.

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