When I was younger, I envisioned meeting my FH while I was in college, getting married shortly thereafter, working for a couple of years, having children, and being a stay-at-home mom until or unless I decided to try to return to the workforce after my potential future children were in school.
However, God’s plan for my life, and my plan for my life, turned out to be two very different things.
Long story short, despite my having dated a lot while I was younger, despite my having had a steady boyfriend for the last two years of college and slightly beyond, and despite my having later been engaged to a really wonderful guy, God eventually made it clear to me that none of those relationships was the one he had chosen for me.
When I was growing up or in my 20s and 30s, I never in my wildest dreams thought that God’s perfect will would involve me still being single in my mid-40s; however, that was indeed the case. The Lord did not bring my Darling Husband into my life until I was almost 46, and we married when I was 47.
I don’t think there is anything at all wrong with you and your Fiance planning for you to be a Stay-At-Home Mom. I’m sure you will be a great blessing to your husband and to your children.
I am thankful that, because God’s plan for my life did not unfold as I had anticipated that I ended up pursuing my bachelor’s and master’s degrees and that God blessed me with a wonderful, interesting, challenging, and fulfilling, 25-year career.
It’s interesting, because, although our current financial picture indicates that I will need to find a job in this “new” area to which I had to relocate as a result of my marriage to my Darling Husband, I still haven’t been able to find anything in my field. On the one hand, I really miss the challenges of working outside the home and being able to get dressed up every day, and making a great salary using my education and work experience. On the other hand, I also have been thankful for the blessing of having had some time to be at home.
As long as you and your Fiance are following what God wants for your lives, don’t allow others to make you question your choices and decisions. 🙂