Post # 1
So, I was hoping some of you might be able to help me out here. FI and are have started talking about our vows and we both want traditional vows, which is great. However, FI was married before and i want to make sure that we don’t do the same vows. To this end, I will be sending him an email with a bunch of vows I like, and he can choose which one he likes best (one that he didnt use previously).
Does anyone have any good links or books about traditional vows that would have a selection to pick through? Or if any of you are able and happy to post your traditional vows in the comments, that could be a great place for me to start. I have a few options, but i will not argue about having more! There’s only one i really like and I want to have at least 3 options for him to choose from.
Post # 3
We wanted to do traditional vows, but we also added our own twist. I’m not a fan of the “I do” vows though. For our traditional vows we repeated the following:
“I, NAME, TAKE YOU NAME, TO BE MY WIFE/HUSBAND. I PROMISE TO BE TRUE TO YOU . . . IN GOOD TIMES AND IN BAD . . . IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH . . . I WILL LOVE YOU AND HONOR YOU . . . ALL THE DAYS OF MY LIFE.”
We actually met in middle school when he wrote me a love poem. So in place of writing our own vows, we wrote each other love letters. The letters were read during our ceremony, placed in envelopes, sealed, and placed in a box with a bottle of wine. If we should find ourselves considering divorce within our first 5 years, we are supposed to open the wine and the letters and try to remember what made us fall in love in the first place. The goal is to make it to our 5th anniversary without opening the letters. If we can, then we will read them together and share the wine on our anniversary. We’ve agreed to write new letters to add to the box every 5 years. We will be celebrating our 1 year anniversary next month. So far we have yet to open the box. Fingers crossed!
Post # 3
Mrs_G: This is the most beautiful thing i have ever heard of! If you dont mind, my husband and I are going to do this. We had many hard times our first year. We disagreed often in the beginning because of our age difference (20 years), bearly made it through the pregnancy of our first child together, and times got even harder after he was born. We never took counselling, we just finally realized that we love each other just as much as we did when we first fell in love and that is what has saved us. A sweet reminder like this is a wonderful iidea. I suggest all couples to use it! Thanks so much for sharing!