(Closed) Traditional vs religious

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
4371 posts
Honey bee

I find the reverse to be true of my experiences with weddings in the US. 

Post # 5
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yeah, I find the reverse to be true of all the weddings I’ve ever attended.  I’m also from the US.

Post # 6
433 posts
Helper bee


Fellow Brit here, and I agree with you. It also matches my observations. 

Post # 7
1583 posts
Bumble bee

@Rachel631:  traditional weddings are religious weddings… do you mean secular?

Post # 8
1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I live in the US, and am having a Catholic ceremony. My priest actually talked about a lot of the traditions that have originated around weddings, and whether or not they really match what a marriage should mean.

-I will not be “given away.” Fiance and I are both walking down the aisle, with both of our parents.

-I’m not wearing a blusher

-I am not promising to obey

– I am changing my name, but it was after a lot of thought!

-We will not be partaking in any overtly sexist or anti-homosexual traditions.

I believe I am the exception though. I think it is because faith does not come easily for Fiance or I. Most of the things we practice are a decision, not a blind following.

ETA: I wish more religious people in the US were like you say they are in the UK. I live in the southern part of the US. Here it seems like you are either an athiest/agnostic, or are a Christian who thinks everyone else is going to hell, and that women should be subordinate to their husbands. It makes finding like-minded individuals nearly impossible.

Post # 12
1583 posts
Bumble bee

@Rachel631:  right but traditionally they all pretty much did. thats why a traditional ceremony is considered religious. a secular ceremony is considered non-traditional and non-religious.

Post # 14
1583 posts
Bumble bee

@Rachel631:  well just because you take some traditions without the initial meaning behind them doesn’t alter its origins. Also just because you leave out tradition but keep religion doesnt change the origins of the act.

Weddings are basically all religous ceremonies be they native american, christian, hindu etc.It is only fairly recently that non-religous wedding even occured (when governments started legal marriages)

This is why I cautioned you from traditional vs religious as they are one in the same. The real question should either be specific traditions from specific religions or religous vs secular.

Post # 16
1583 posts
Bumble bee

@Rachel631:  we may have different ideas of what religion is, pagan rituals are religous in my definition as a social scientist.

Also the things you mentioned did start as religous traditions. non-religous traditions were kidnap girl have sex with her, shes yours. Religon formalied that and created ceremonies for wealthier citiens and that trickled down to the common people as religion expanded.

In native american tribes the rituals were different but also started at the higher level and trickled down to the common tribe folk.

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