(Closed) Traditional vs. writing own vows

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: what are you doing for the Ceremony?
    Using Traditional vows : (21 votes)
    51 %
    Writing your own vows : (20 votes)
    49 %
  • Post # 3
    5656 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    We did both. We wrote our own personal vows, then said the traditional ones. Our pastor required that we had the traditional vows in there, but we were still able to write our own vows too.

    Our guests LOVED our personalized vows, which I totally didn’t expect. There was a round of applause after my DH’s vows lol! I think it really helped make our ceremony personal and meaningful.

    Post # 4
    194 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @jilly1020:  We are planning traditional vows simply because I will be a nervouse wreck and feel more comfortable just repeating after the minister.

    I do like the idea of your own vows, so we are putting a twist on it.  We are writing each other a letter that we can each read privatly therefore we get all the mushy gushy stuff in there without worrying about saying it in public.  Maybe you would like something like that?

    Post # 5
    3081 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think we will write our own but base it on the traditional vows, just changing things here and there to make them a little more meaningful to us and personalized. I don’t think you can go wrong either way, as long as you are comfortable with what you are agreeing to! 🙂

    Post # 6
    3356 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I picked a version of vows out of a selection. I thought of doing personal vows, but I wanted them to be personal – meaning it was just for us and not everybody else, tough if they can’t hear us. FH said he knew his family was going to be nosy about what our vows were, and he just didn’t want to deal with it.

    as it is, he says, he’s already living his vows <3

    Post # 7
    103 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We are going traditional because I want to look in his eyes not reading from my paper…and there is NO WAY I will be able to remember anything I try to memorize, I’ll be lucky to remember my name!!

    Post # 8
    964 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We are taking a more modern version of the traditional vows. We will both say the same vows, but they are a little more personal to our situation. We will still repeat the vows from the pastor and NOT have to read off a piece of paper… or have to memorize anything!

    Post # 10
    6 posts
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Personal vows all the way for us, though we are doing the traditional bit at the end too with the repeating and the i dos and the rings.  i really wanted to do personal vows, i only intend on doing this wedding thing once and wanna do everything

    Post # 11
    289 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We’ll be going traditional but changing some wording. For instance: if my Fiance thinks I’m uttering the word ‘obey’, he has another thing coming. 😉

    Post # 12
    3977 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We actually did both.

    We wrote “funny” personal vows, about 3-5 sentences each. And we also did traditional vows for the official ring ceremony.


    Post # 13
    7605 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    We’re going the traditional repeat-after-me route and I’m really happy about that.  I feel that, for us, anything else we have to say is private.  Also, I’ve been imagining saying the traditional vows since I was younger and I really like the idea in sort of an “if it ain’t broke” kind of way.

    Post # 14
    914 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We’re doing the standard “Do you blah blah” and we’re writing our own personalized vows.

    Post # 15
    2305 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    We’re doing traditional ones. To me, there’s something so powerful about saying the same words as so many couples before me. Also I’m going to be a complete wreck (more then likely) since I can’t do anything emotional without bursting into tears and repeat after me is going to be about as much as I can muster. 

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