(Closed) Traditional vs. writing own vows

posted 11 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Are you doing traditional vows or are you writing your own?


    writing own vows


  • Post # 17
    803 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    we’re doing both:

    we want to write our own to make it more personal

    we are doing the traditoinal ones to incorporate the oh-so-amazing-phrase of “I DO!”  it seems weird to add it onto the end of our written ones, so we’re doing both and i love it!

    Post # 18
    494 posts
    Helper bee

    We are undecided but we will probably go with traditional. I am to embarassed to say such personal things in front of a group of people so I dont think I could do it. Especially since most of my family thinks weddings are BS. I would feel like everybody would think we were being cheesy.

    Post # 19
    273 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    i’m getting married in a catholic ceremony so we have to use the traditional vows.  i like it thought.  i’m not always great when it comes to expressing my personal feelings AND i get nervous standing up in front of crowds.  and i like the idea of reciting the traditional vows.  i can’t really explain it.  it just seems really romantic to me.

    Post # 20
    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I see the value in both but would prefer to be looking at my fiance than a piece of paper when I speak my vows (too scared to try to memorize them – sure I’ll choke up!), so traditional vows kinda edge out. Spoke to the Fiance and we compromised on the following yoinked from the ‘Net:

    “You are my lover and my teacher,
    You are my model and my accomplice,
    And you are my true counterpart.
    I will love you, hold you, and honor you,
    I will respect you, encourage you, and cherish you,
    In health and sickness,
    Through sorrow and success,
    For all the days of my life.”

    Kind of a mix of both, and everything we’d like to say, but our officiant can lead us through them a la traditional vows. Hope this helps!

    Post # 22
    68 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We are writing our own together. We were just discussing it the other night–we think that the process of writing ours together will be a meaningful process. We can decide what is important to the both of us and agree to the same things.

    Post # 23
    2280 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I love the history, meaning, and eloquence of the traditional vows. They say what needs to be said. It’s not hard to work personalized words around them either.

    Post # 24
    36 posts
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We are planning to do both at our wedding. Short personalized vows plus the more traditional ones as we are rather fond of them as well.

    Post # 25
    2194 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    This is pretty much the only thing Fiance has had a strong opinion about.  From day one–like, the second after I proposed–he was like, so are we going to write our own vows? How about the ceremony? OMG HOW IS THIS GOING TO WORK?!  It was cute.  After he calmed down, we started talking about the logistics.  We will write ours together.  I don’t think I could deal with “surprise” vows!

    Post # 26
    13 posts
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I wrote our whole ceremony and my own vows, and my husband wrote his vows. It was the only way I felt that we could express our relationship and goals together as a couple accurately.

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