(Closed) Traditions and Cultures – I'm curious!

posted 9 years ago in Traditions
Post # 17
789 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@thatredheadedbride-Ive been hearing about these parties, I havent known anyone in Syracuse to do them, Im about 30-40 minutes from Utica. They sound fun!

I personalty thinks its cool there are different traditions and the fact that most traditional weddings are thrown out the window and personalized to the couple!

Post # 21
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@Styles:  I’m from Syracuse, too.  It’s strange how traditions are different a half-hour down the 90! lol  I had asked my mom if she had ever heard of it, and she was as clueless as I was!

I’m assuming my FI’s family will probably be throwing us one.  Can’t say I will refuse, either!  Food, liquor and money?  I’m in!

Post # 22
5008 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

British weddings are very different from US weddings and Scottish weddings have their own subset of traditions:

  • Weddings are usually between 11am and 4pm (usually 2-3pm)
  • Women often/usually wear hats
  • They are then followed by a champagne reception for an hour or two whilst pictures are taken
  • Next is the “wedding breakfast” and speeches
  • After that additional guests arrive for the evening reception of dancing
  • There’s an evening buffet

Scottish variations include:

  • The groom and men of the bridal party usually wear kilts
  • Men’s buttonholes are often thistles
  • If you’re getting married in a church, it’s traditional to do a “pour out” (pronounced “poor oot”) which is throwing coins out of the wedding car for local children.
  • The evening dancing is very often a ceilidh (Scottish group dancing)
  • The evening buffet is usually stovies (a type of potato-based stew); haggis, neeps and tatties; and/or bacon rolls.
  • Up north, there’s a tradition called “blackening” where the groom generally gets covered in sticky stuff and feathers (or cornflakes) and paraded ’round the town.

Post # 24
5008 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@RagDoll:  Neeps are what you call rutabaga, I believe, and tatties are potatoes (both usually mashed when served with haggis) and bacon rolls are simply buttered bread rolls with bacon (and brown sauce if you have good taste).

Post # 25
649 posts
Busy bee

My traditions in caribbean

weddings are usually between 9am to 4pm for the ceremony

the groom is not allowed to see the bride before the wedding

the couple is not allowed to spend the night together before the wedding

the couples receive counselling before they get married

there is a rehearal of how we will walk down the isle to give the bridal party some practice.

Receptions today are by invitation only and typical food consist of

rice and peas 
vegetable rice
macaroni pie
steamed veggies
fried tropical fish

beef stew
lamb chew
oven baked chicken
steamed fish
ham and leg pork

cole slaw
tossed salad
potato salad

pasta salad

three bean salad

 chocolate cake

cheese cake

vanilla swil cake

fruit cocktail


Most weddings serve alcohol and the cake is 98 % always a dark alcohol fruit cake.

Most people here will not use chocolate cake and cheese cakes and those kinds of cakes for a wedding at all.


In my fiances culture it is totally diff

the grooms family and the groom must pay for everything

all the bride has to do is turn up looking pretty

he must ask her parents for their permission and must send them gifts which will be set out for him in a list

trust me this list is very comprehensive and is a lot.

smost times the bride and groom dance down the isle instead of walking down

and they also dance into the reception room

women cannot go into the church with the backs uncovered, yes short sleeves and all that can be worn but  women dress modestly

the wedding gowns are not black and white but are very colourful and the bride and groom will wear matching outfits normally made out of the same material


Thats all I can think of for now


Post # 27
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m fron the Netherlands.

– On average both men and woman get married in their thirties, almost always after living together.

– Alot of people never get married at all. My brother and his girlfriend have been together 20+ years.

– The bride and groom spend the night before the wedding apart and the groom pick up the bride at home the day of the wedding.

– We don’t say our vows, the officiant reads them and we just say i do.

– We wear our rings on the right hand.

– Diamond bands are uncommon.

– Invitations are simple and folded like a simple card.

– Guest don’t give alot of money.

– The most important guest wear flower corsages.

– Most people don’t get an engagement ring, if they do it’s not expensive.

– Free wine,beer and soda at the party. Cash bars are considered not done.

– No garter toss, we only toss the boeket.

– We don’t have adult bridesmaids.

– You can use your husbands name but your maiden name will never change in your passport.

Post # 28
2587 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

In the UK, cash bars are fairly standard – so there’ll be a welcome drink for what you guys call the ‘cocktail hour’, then what most places offer is half a bottle of wine per person for the wedding breakfast, and a glass of champagne for the toast, and after that it’s all paid for. I think open bars tend to be unusual, rather than expected.

It’s also pretty much standard practice to invite people for only the evening part – so the ceremony and wedding breakfast by a smaller group of people, then friends and family who are not so close would attend the evening buffet and party.

Also, as far as I know (in my circles at least) we totally don’t do a garter toss over here. That might hark back to the old Victorian prudery around Legs (“unmentionables”), but I have to say even browsing on the Bee forums, I find myself thinking “OhmyGOODNESS” every time I see recap pictures with grooms diving under the bride’s skirt in the middle of the dance floor! *cue pearl-clutching and smelling salts*

Post # 29
343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Some British differences I’ve noticed:

  • Cash bars – totally fine and normal
  • Day guests and evening reception guests – totally fine and normal
  • Sending registry information with your invitation – totally fine and normal
  • Hardly ever a “signature drink” – we just had champagne, wine and beer
  • Rarely flower girls with flags and/or flower petals
  • The ladies all wear hats – I love this picture of Mother-In-Law and her friends at my wedding!


Shotgun Wedding Photography: Mary and Ben &emdash; 2944 Mary and Ben 0137

Post # 30
755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@thatredheadedbride:  Thats funny, I am from the Utica area and I have never heard of that either. I am having an “open house” sort of engagement party/shower that will be for both of us but there won’t be tickets or any kind of raffle. 

Post # 31
2587 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

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@doorstopper:  That’s a great picture!

Yeah, hats do seem to be the ‘big thing’ over here, particularly for women over a certain age, don’t they? It’s a saying – “When should I buy a hat?” to mean “When are you getting married?”

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