- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Yet some people act like a registry list in an invite is equivalant to nude photos or something.
Now that would make for an exciting wedding invitation!
As far as different traditions, I moved from the US to Sweden. Here we have no halloween, the little kids come around dressed up for Easter instead. (Easter witches need candy to fuel their flight to the witches sabbath at Blåkulla. 😉 There is no Thanksgiving, but we do a Thanksgiving dinner every year and invite Swedish friends and family to come try traditional American Thanksgiving food. It’s always a blast because they’ve only ever seen it in movies.
Christmas is Jul, and Santa is a gnome with a goat. (Actually the gnome is a later addition, originally, I believe, he was just a goat.) He also comes and distributes presents on Julafton (Christmas eve). Usually, most unfortunately for the dad in the house, this happens just when he’s stepped out to get the paper. (Mr. E and I usually have Jul with his family on Julafton, but save our personal present exchange until Christmas morning.)
As far as weddings, I think they are much more low key. Oh, both partners get an engagement ring, and they are just simple bands, like Americans usually choose for wedding bands. Bling is unusual, though it’s becoming a little more common, mostly due, I think, to the prevelance of American media influence. Not that common though, as none of our engaged friends are sporting rocks.
Oh, the whole engagement timeline thing is not really an issue. Many of the Swedish women of my aquaintance in their late twenties and thirties live with their partners, but aren’t married yet, and there is none of this timeline leave date drama pressure. I think partly because there is not the same hard division of married/unmarried that you get in American culture. We even have a distinct word for “partner that you cohabit with” and this is a recognized relationship, not just socially but officially. It’s normal for couples to live together for years, even have children together, before they marry.
Formal dinners, like a wedding reception, can last hours because there is much speechifying (anyone can make one, though there’s usually a toastmaster to help coordinate them) and also periodically everyone stands up and sings. You may even get a booklet with your dinner that has words to the many songs planned, and notes about the accompanying tune, especially if there are made up words that go with the event. It’s very Swedish to make little personalized poems and dittys. There is also usually much wine and snaps to go with the hours of singing and speeches. 😉