Post # 1
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Helper bee
Okay! So it’s one tradition that really really bugs me. Not being able to see each other the night before the wedding… They say it’s ” Bad Luck!” Well my thoughts on it is ..Well it’s dumb! Let’s put some real thought into this tradition.
1. They are saying that it’s bad luck. Well how is it bad luck? You seeing each other isn’t going to make it rain on your big day, or make your dress not fit, or even make someone sick that day.. Anything that happens is out of your hands.
2. Your marriage is going to be hard? WTH! That’s going to happen if you want it to or not. Keeping a true love takes a lot of hard work and love. Seeing someone the night before or not isn’t going to change that.
3. The marriage isn’t going to last? Well okay here’s some food for thought for you. What about the people that don’t see each other the night before, And they don’t make it? Please tell me what did that. Or the people that go to city hall and get married and they woke up next to each other the day they did it and they make 20years…. Don’t worry I’ll wait…… Right.. It’s no real answers to any of this stuff. Now don’t get me wrong i believe in luck, good and bad.. But i always believe you give something too much power over you life it can and will take over. You have power to make the best out of a day thing. And to enjoy it even more when things are good. A marriage isn’t going to fail because you seen your Fi/husband the night before, and just because it rains on your wedding it doesn’t mean your going to have a hard marriage. We as people can make life what we want it to be and roll with ever punch that comes our way.
Post # 3
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Busy bee
I am SO with you on this. So many “traditions” are so silly and outdated!
Post # 4
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Newbee
I know lots of people who didn’t see each other before and still got divorced. It’s just a silly superstition! I want for my fiance and I to see each other before for practical/time reasons, but he really wants to wait to see me when I walk down the aisle. I think whatever you do is fine!
Post # 5
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Helper bee
The way I see it, is if it’s really ment to last it will and if not then you take it as a life lesson and push on with life. And I understand wanting your SOS to see you all dolled up in that light for the first time okay cool, but don’t make it a luck thing.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
my hubby and i wanted to spend the night before the wedding together… but we didn’t because our wedding party wouldn’t allow it. I don’t think they realized how much it really bothered us that they did that, hahah. We both just really wanted a good sleep in our own bed… no biggie. he was gonna leave to go do stuff at 8am.. and i would be outta the house at 9:30…
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
…geez, I didn’t realize it was a big tradition….Mr. 99 and I spent that night apart just to make seeing each other all the more exciting the next night. I did talk to him on the phone all day though and it wasn’t because we were afraid of “bad luck”
Post # 8
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Busy bee
@Kee_Jay22: lolz, we are having such a non traditional wedding. Not only is Fiance seeing the dress, my hair, the make up before the wedding but we are getting ready in the same home.
All I have to say is, when you live together for 3 + years, a wedding isn’t going to change a thing AND we are non comformists, we like to do whatever we want to do.
That being said, I respect the decisions of someone else to incorporate tradition and one should also respect my decision to incorporate non tradition ;p
Post # 9
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Helper bee
I have a cousin that is like crazy about NOT! Seeing her Fiance the night before all because of bad luck.. And it’s crazy to me because I feel like if he is going to go he would have been gone. She has spent money they don’t have just to not see him. It’s out of this world crazy to me
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
I never heard of this tradition.
Of course it does not matter, it’s just a superstition. All superstitions are silly.
I do not believe in luck at all – good or bad.
Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I believe in making your own rules as long as they cause no harm to anyone. I’m not a traditional person, at all, and neither is Darling Husband. The only traditional things we did in our wedding were the ones we liked. Spending the night before our wedding apart wasn’t something we wanted to do, so we didn’t.
Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
It was not a tradition that we chose to uphold, but it doesn’t bother me when others choose to do so for their own weddings.
Post # 13
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Helper bee
No trying to disrespect anyone’s ideas.. But that is who I feel about it overall … A lot of people make it so Taboo to see your S.O.S the day of. And my thing is it don’t matter if you do or if you don’t. I seen my husband the night before and we had fist look pictures taken. But also had a lot of ppl in my family tell me all of that was bad luck. That’s what made me share my thoughts and feels
Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
“But also had a lot of ppl in my family tell me all of that was bad luck”
Luck Schmuck! Ask them if they believe in the Easter bunny too!
It’s fine to do traditions for the SAKE of traditions (heck I did one of them, even though it was silly), but to believe it actually has any influence on the success if your long term mappy marriage is just illogical (to me). Tell it to them like that.
Post # 15
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Helper bee
@Sienna76 I agree it’s one thing to do it just do it but to make it this big over the time deal is a little to much for me
Post # 16
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Busy bee
I don’t care about this particular tradition – I’m choosing to stay with my girls in our hotel suite the night before the wedding because I know that if I have to wake up super early to drive to the hotel, I’ll probably be crabby! 🙂 So instead, Mr. O is going to have his guys to our apartment for video games and other shenanigans, while the girls and I enjoy some wedding movies and girl talk.
