- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
I’ve seen a lot of “Who should I walk with down the aisle?” and wanted to share our cultural tradition. By the way, I’m a Catholic from Southern India and so those are the traditions we will follow.
The bride and groom are escorted to the church separately. They meet at the entrance with their bridal parties. The bouquet is a gift from the Best Man who is usually a member of the groom’s family and that is the first step the groom’s family takes to welcome the bride. The bride and groom walk down the aisle together to make a public statement that they have decided to get married of their own free will (although I’m sure this wasn’t always the case as my grandmother was married off at 17 …funny story she grew to be taller than the groom).
So where do the parents fit in? They spend the day before the wedding with their child “grooming them”. They oil their hair and use coconut milk on their skin and then aunts, uncles and cousins take turns hosing them down before they serve one last dinner. Cousins and siblings enjoy shoving ice cubes down the shirts or cracking eggs on their heads to be annoying (it does wonders for your hair though lol). After the cleanup, everyone gets dressed in their finest for dinner.
The day of the wedding the parents, aunts and uncles take turns blessing their child and actually see their child off for the last time. It’s always a sad day at the bride’s house because we consider a girl to bring joy and light to a house and no one wants to see joy leave their home.
At the end of the wedding reception the bride’s family officially hand her over to the groom’s where the groom’s family promise publicly that they will take care of her and watch out for her as one of their own even if it means to protect her from her own husband. They also promise to bring her to her parents home to birth her first child and be spoiled again 🙂
Granted these are old traditions but I love that the everyone had to take responsibility for a marriage not just the bride and groom but the in-laws and friends in doing whatever they could to ensure a couple’s success.
What are some of your traditions that make your heart feel warm?