(Closed) Traditions – sixpence, something borrowed etc – do I have to? Did you??

posted 4 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
398 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Norton Country Club

To answer to the title… no, you don’t have to.  It’s your choice and only you get to make it.  And yes, I will be doing it.

I’m not superstitious either and will be skipping the sixpence in the shoe portion- not something we really do in the US.  (Unless there is anyone who has one that would want to gift it to me? LOL) One of our wedding colors is blue so that will be easy, my dress will be new, I wanted to wear my mother’s veil for sentimental reasons so that’s my borrowed item, and the center stone of my Engagement Ring is a reset diamond so I’ve got old covered too.  I guess mine was easy and not something I really worried about since it was falling together anyway. 

I am tempted to ask… what’s up with the aversion to coins? Feel free to ignore if it’s too personal!


Post # 3
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

MrsSpagan:  You don’t have to but it’s fun if you have some good items to use.

Old – Pearl bracelet my mom gave me for my birthday years ago.

New – Easy, my wedding dress.

Borrowed – My MIL’s pearl necklace and earrings she wore for her wedding.

Blue – My shoes and a scarf (both turquoise blue to match our color sheme) which I wore later in the evening when it got cold.

I skipped the garter since I didn’t wear stockings on the beach and no sixpence or penny in my shoe because it would have been uncomfortable (I didn’t feel like trying to figure out how to attach it to the outside of my shoe either.)

Post # 4
297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

MrsSpagan:  No you don’t have to and no I’m not doing them either. My shoes are blue, but that’s just bc I really love the shoes ha.

Post # 5
565 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Pavilion at Rocky Neck State Park

As the other bees have said, you don’t have to. However, I did. Some of these traditions are fun, especially if you use family heirlooms because of all the history of them.

New: my dress

Old: a pin that was my great-grandmothers (she was married to my great-grandfather for 50+ years)

Borrowed: The first ring my dad bought my mom when they were dating (I put it on the pin and my parents are happily married going on 35 years)

Blue: A blue topez ring Mom and Dad bought me

Post # 6
3300 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I didn’t set out to do this because I’m not into superstition–or tradition, for that matter. However, I inadvertently wound up having most of the items. I didn’t have anything blue per se…but royal blue is my main sorority color and most of my sisters skip the something blue because many of us are known to say the WE are the something blue at our wedding. My necklace was borrowed and my dress was new.  I don’t know if I had anything old. I wore traditional west indian bracelets that I’ve had for about 5 years (and which I wear every day anyway) but I’m not sure if that qualifies. 

Post # 7
4040 posts
Honey bee

Nope. I didn’t do any of that 36 years ago and my daughter’s didn’t/will not, in 2013 and 2014. And 0 garters or bouquets tossed, out of 3. 

It’s not like your marriage will be cursed or something, if you don’t follow it correctly.

Post # 9
193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You don’t have to at all – I agree, I didn’t care about it either. I ended up getting a piece of one of my dad’s blue shirts sewn into the inside hem of my dress in a heart shape, just as a sentimental thing, but it counts for old and blue; new is the dress and all my accessories but I’m not borrowing anything and it seems like it would be excessive to add anything else haha.

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