Post # 1
Yesterday morning I was txting back and forth with my Maid/Matron of Honor and she starts saying what am I having for my something borrowed, blue, new, old etc and we’ll have to get me a garter and a sixpence and stuff and I’m like NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. She says it’s all part of the fun of it.
Ummm… I don’t think so. I hate coins so the sixpence can just not come anywhere near me, I don’t want a garter (we’re hardly doing a garter toss) and the something old new etc thing pfhhh just seems like something I may have to think about or spend money on. Essentially all these traditions and more I googled a while ago and learned their origins. It’s all superstition and they mean nothing to me. Doing it because everyone else does means nothing to me and seems impersonal.
Am I a grump or is anyone else really not bothered about that stuff?
Post # 2
- Wedding: December 2014 - Norton Country Club
To answer to the title… no, you don’t have to. It’s your choice and only you get to make it. And yes, I will be doing it.
I’m not superstitious either and will be skipping the sixpence in the shoe portion- not something we really do in the US. (Unless there is anyone who has one that would want to gift it to me? LOL) One of our wedding colors is blue so that will be easy, my dress will be new, I wanted to wear my mother’s veil for sentimental reasons so that’s my borrowed item, and the center stone of my Engagement Ring is a reset diamond so I’ve got old covered too. I guess mine was easy and not something I really worried about since it was falling together anyway.
I am tempted to ask… what’s up with the aversion to coins? Feel free to ignore if it’s too personal!
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
MrsSpagan: You don’t have to but it’s fun if you have some good items to use.
Old – Pearl bracelet my mom gave me for my birthday years ago.
New – Easy, my wedding dress.
Borrowed – My MIL’s pearl necklace and earrings she wore for her wedding.
Blue – My shoes and a scarf (both turquoise blue to match our color sheme) which I wore later in the evening when it got cold.
I skipped the garter since I didn’t wear stockings on the beach and no sixpence or penny in my shoe because it would have been uncomfortable (I didn’t feel like trying to figure out how to attach it to the outside of my shoe either.)
Post # 4
MrsSpagan: No you don’t have to and no I’m not doing them either. My shoes are blue, but that’s just bc I really love the shoes ha.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2013 - Pavilion at Rocky Neck State Park
As the other bees have said, you don’t have to. However, I did. Some of these traditions are fun, especially if you use family heirlooms because of all the history of them.
New: my dress
Old: a pin that was my great-grandmothers (she was married to my great-grandfather for 50+ years)
Borrowed: The first ring my dad bought my mom when they were dating (I put it on the pin and my parents are happily married going on 35 years)
Blue: A blue topez ring Mom and Dad bought me
Post # 6
I didn’t set out to do this because I’m not into superstition–or tradition, for that matter. However, I inadvertently wound up having most of the items. I didn’t have anything blue per se…but royal blue is my main sorority color and most of my sisters skip the something blue because many of us are known to say the WE are the something blue at our wedding. My necklace was borrowed and my dress was new. I don’t know if I had anything old. I wore traditional west indian bracelets that I’ve had for about 5 years (and which I wear every day anyway) but I’m not sure if that qualifies.
Post # 7
Nope. I didn’t do any of that 36 years ago and my daughter’s didn’t/will not, in 2013 and 2014. And 0 garters or bouquets tossed, out of 3.
It’s not like your marriage will be cursed or something, if you don’t follow it correctly.
Post # 8
wvlefty: haha it’s not personal, just weird! my whole life I have this weird thing about coins and buttons. They give me the creeps. If I touch them I feel the need to wash my hands. I have no idea where it came from but I was always like this from a very very young age. Nowadays I’ll tolerate touching coins or buttons briefly if I really have to, but if you watch carefully you’ll see me end the experience very quickly and wipe my hands on my jeans!! I’m the same with metal watches. If someone hands me their watch to hold I start squirming like it’s burning me haha I just don’t know what it is. Yes I know it is totally silly…. but they’re just bleuuuuuuuuuuuuurghhhhhhhhhhhh. Argh the thought of it all… right where’s the bleach? Hahahah!
Post # 9
You don’t have to at all – I agree, I didn’t care about it either. I ended up getting a piece of one of my dad’s blue shirts sewn into the inside hem of my dress in a heart shape, just as a sentimental thing, but it counts for old and blue; new is the dress and all my accessories but I’m not borrowing anything and it seems like it would be excessive to add anything else haha.