Transitions are hard!

posted 2 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas

I think it’s fine and normal….

My hubby and I spent a year apart when he was still in college, and I was working full time. I saw him at least every month. I had a demanding career, joined different groups, etc. I enjoyed my alone time. But I’d be sad, cranky, and miserable when he left. Just like you, I’d be fine and back into my routine again with no problem.

Same thing happened when he got a job at a man-camp, where he would be gone for 28 days in a row. I’d be fine without him home, but back to the same sad, cranky, and miserable time whenever he left.

Part of what helped me was that we had scheduled phone calls as well, and each visit were planned well in advance so I had something to look forward to.

In my opinion, the sad moments are just a tiny blip in time when he visited, and were worth the good times during his visits.

It’ll get better, I promise!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

Reaching the halfway point does make it easier… Although I think it will probably start to feel like more of a “countdown” at the 3 month mark. My SO and I used to be long distance (I was in California, he was in Europe) and we would only see each other approx. every 3 months. I totally get that the movement he leaves is the most difficult part! But like you said, you grow accustomed to the new “norm” again. Like steny03 said, scheduling phone calls made it easier. Just hearing the other person’s voice can create a sense of comfort that they’re close even though they’re physically farther away. Keep busy with the internship, watch your favorite comedy series (or whatever floats your boat) and go out and do things. And remember… you’re already more than half way there!!

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Totally agree!! Me and my now husband have been long distance for 2.5 years! We have 4 more months to go and I couldn’t be more excited. I also generally am ok during the week but like you, when he leaves or I leave on Sunday evenings it feels so terrible! Having an end date in sight and being able to count down towards it is the biggest thing for us. Despite how tough it has been, I wouldn’t have done anything differently. For us, it made sense for each of us to chase our careers at this point and I’m glad that neither of us had to sacrifice any opportunities. Hang in there!! Hope your last 5 months fly by 🙂

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