Post # 1
Hello! We will be married at a cathedral, and holding our reception at a hotel about a 15 minute walk / 5 minute drive away. My parents will be staying with me at the hotel the night before our wedding and going home after the reception. My parents’ car and my car will be parked at the hotel, taking up two car spaces.
Fiance will be travelling into our wedding with his family from his parents’ home – roughly a half hour drive away. We will be having a first look prior to the remainder of our guests arriving, about an hour before our ceremony.
It seems as though we will be booking transport for him and his family, but are stuck on how to make this all work. We have the issue of having his parents get home from the wedding, without their own car. They do not wish to catch a taxi or public transport home due to the distance, nor do they wish to stay at the hotel where we’ll be hosting our reception.
If you were us, would you either
- Pay for a 4 hour hold on a wedding car, to transport me to the venue, return to the hotel and pick up my family closer to the ceremony time, wait until the ceremony and photos are over, and then transport both our families to the reception. We would arrive at the reception with one of our photographers, in the car that brought fiance and his family to the ceremony after photos are complete
- Make our way around and between our venues via Uber Black (keeping it classy haha) as it is literally a 5 minute drive between venues
- Book a car space at a nearby carpark, and have fiance’s parents drive him to the wedding and park there for the day, going home in their own car
Gah. This is bloody frustrating. Thanks, bees!
Post # 2
If they don’t want to use public transport or stay then why is this your issue to sort? I don’t mean that in a horrible way. I am sure you are just trying to help, but I am sure you have enough to deal with!
Post # 3
Oh no, it isn’t horrible. I find that they’re being extremely difficult! We’ve offered alternatives but it seems like they don’t want any of it
Post # 4
Well, maybe I am just mean but to be honest, they are grown up’s they can sort it!
Post # 5
This isn’t your responsibility…next time you see them ask if they thought about what they will be doing for transportation or if they are planning to walk between venues and take a taxi home. They aren’t children…they can figure it out. If they tell you that you are responsible for them, tell them all guests have to sort out their own transportation. Be upfront with them about it and tell them you won’t be doing it for them. Make sure your partner is on board with it!
Post # 6
Seriously, I don’t know if it is because I am 17 days away from my own wedding, but there is so much to plan and think about, you really shouldn’t have to give this any head space.
Post # 7
Exactly. We’ve given them options, but they don’t want a bar of it. It’s up to them to decide how they want to get there.
Overall, I’m stuck on how to get there. For me, it definitely isn’t worth paying for a 2 hour hold on a wedding car, for two trips totalling 15 minutes (at most). But I’m not sure what my options are either, other than catching an Uber or walking 🙈
Post # 8
Either Uber or walking are valid options. Plan what you want for you, give them their options and pricing and let them pick what they want.
Post # 9
Is this the car that is bringing your FH from his parents house to the first look and then transporting you and him and the photographer? It is hard to tell from what you wrote.
If it is then yes you should pay for parking for that car since you and your FH will be utilising it.
Post # 10
Am I missing something? What’s wrong with them driving to the church and reception area and then driving home from there? Seriously if they’re being that difficult stay out of it and let them figure it out…..all this extra is silly and unneccesarily stressful.
Oooh just a thought tho….is the area from the church to reception scenic? I’ve seen some bride/groom in the city street pics that look fabulous! Maybe that would work for you even if its in the country.
Post # 11
Maybe I am misunderstanding the situation, but it seems like it should be his parents’ responsibility to figure out how they’re going to get home if they don’t want to take public transportation or a taxi.
Is it the cost of the taxi that is making them balk? Would offering to pay for their taxi or an Uber/Uber Black for them help?
Post # 12
Is there not parking at the wedding? Or do they not want to drive from the ceremony to the reception? I don’t understand why they wouldn’t just drive their own car from their house to the ceremony then to the reception and then home at the end of the day.
Either way, I would tell them this is up to them to handle.
Post # 13
Out of your options, I’d do the last, book them a parking spot and they can drive, or just throw your hands up and tell them to fucking deal with it. This is so not a thing to worry about, idk why they are being so difficult!