Post # 1
I’m planning a bachelorette for a friend and I’ve been trying to figure out transportation. We are starting the party at the bride’s house and I was thinking of getting a limo to take us to the bar. Is it reasonable to ask everyone attending to chip in for the limo/transporation costs?
The thing is, is that the bride lives kind of out in the country and a cab ride (would need 2-3 cabs) would break down to around $15 per person return at the least, where as a limo would be about $30 per person or less depending on how many people RSVP.
Is it typical for everyone attending to pay for transportation? Or do the hosts usually pay for that? There are only 2 BMs, and we’re both pretty poor right now. Would you be upset to chip in $30 for a limo as a guest?
Post # 3
I don’t know that I would be ‘upset’ but if you two are poor then the others may be too. I don’t think it’s the guests responsibility. Especially because they are already getting her a gift, buying dinner most likely, buying drinks, any other expenses. I would let them worry about their own transportation.
Post # 4
Also, to put it all in context, we are staying at the brides house, and they are not expected to get her a gift for the bachelorette. However they would need to buy their drinks at the bar. Those would be the only costs – no dinner or anything (we will have munchies at the house) but the party doesn’t start until after dinner.
Post # 5
We just had a couple of DDs and took our own cars- 4/5 per car, depending on the size of the car. We met at a hotel room, headed out for dinner and karaoke, then back to the hotel. The girls paid for their own food/drinks and mine.
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@stargurl101: Is there anyone in your party that doesn’t drink?
I wouldn’t want to pay $30 as a guest… I know you two hosts are thinking ahead and it is a good idea and I DON’T think you two should pay for something like that everyone benefits from but it still doesn’t seem cool to asks the guests that.
Post # 7
Anybody have a minivan or one they could borrow? $30 apiece isn’t bad, but if less people come and it’s suddenly $50, that’s a little harder to swallow. And it may be kind of awkward trying to collect from everyone.
Post # 8
Ya. I feel like I’m in a really tough spot. The bride wants a limo and to do this and that, but there are only myself and another bridesmaid to split costs with. We are trying to organize a fun party and meet her expectations but it’s hard.
For my bachelorette I believe all the girls split the cost for everything – hotel, drinks, cover, cab. I’m not sure if that’s typical.
What are bachelorette guests expected to pay for and what are the hosts expected to pay for?
Post # 9
I think you can offer it up to split the cost, but if someone doesnt want to and wants to drive themselves, then they can.
Post # 10
why not send out an feeler text/email to all the girls letting them know you are considering getting a limo but it would break down to approximately $30/pp if everyone contributes. Give them the break down for cabs too.
I’d probably do it to each girl individually though so you are most likely to get an honest response from them instead of a mass message to the group where no one will probably want to be the debbie-downer who says she doesn’t want to pay.
Post # 11
I’ve been to plenty of Bachelorette parties where there is a limo or party bus. We have always split the cost between the guests. Maybe try and poll the guests before to get their feelings.
Post # 12
I’ve been to a few bachelorette parties.. and never thought it was odd or rude to chip in for the limo. Everyone is using it, it shouldn’t be just one or two people paying for it.. maybe it’s only acceptable in “my parts” of town.. I know my Maid/Matron of Honor is asking guests of my bachelorette party to help chip in.. $30 isn’t too much for a limo for the night.. if it was like $60 or $70, that’s a little much.
Post # 13
I’d be happy to pay $30 for a limo as a guest. I paid $20 for a party bus for a bach party a couple of years ago. I don’t think that the hosts need to pay for the entire cost. Like PP mentioned, send an email or whatever and see how many people would be up for it. I really don’t think $30 is all that much considering there’s no travel, hotel, etc. involved.
Post # 14
I think you can always politely ask people to pay, and they can always politely decline if they think it’s too much *shrug*
Edit: Meaning they can decline to use the service, not that they can then use the limo without paying while other people are chipping in. If they think it’s too much, they can figure out how to get home for cheaper then. At my bachelorette, everybody paid for their own everything (my Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs paid for my dinner/drinks/karaoke etc). Those who couldn’t afford dinner and drinks and karaoke and the hotel only did the portion they could afford.
Post # 15
A compromise… is there a different house that the party can start at? Maybe that would bring the cost down….
But I’ve always seen it that Bachelorettes the main cost is split among guests, the Hostess might put in more but if its transportation/accomodation etc everyone chips in…. You just let people know its “X for the night because of ABC and Y is at your own cost for the night” and people will do what they want.