Post # 1
Did anyone did or decide to do trash or rock the dress photoshoot after your wedding? If so, what were or are your plans? Where? How did they turn out? If you decided against it, what was your reasons?
My husband was suggesting doing something like this since it’s not worth selling the dress and I’m not going to wear the dress again. It seem fun but I feel vain if I do that. As well as I have no clue what to do since we are in the fall season.
Post # 2
Love this idea, but if you’re looking for something to do with the dress that won’t make you feel “vain” why not consider donating it?
I sent mine to a group of women who make Angel Gowns, they are gowns for babies who have passed away to be buried in. The gowns get donated to local hospitals, and I found it lovely that my dress could bring an ounce of comfort to a grieving family.
Post # 3
I would probably just donate it.
For what it’s worth, the only people I’ve known who’ve done a trash the dress was people getting divorced lol!
Post # 4
I did a “trash the dress” photoshoot 6 months after my wedding and I loved it! You can see it on my previous threads
Post # 5
I think the “trash the dress” thing is gross, personally.
Why not donate it so another woman who can’t afford a brand new one can have it?
Post # 6
Personally, I feel like the trash the dress idea is wasteful. Wedding dresses cost a lot of money, and if they’re only worn once and then trashed, it’s not putting a lot of value on your money. They can be donated to a charity that provides wedding dresses to brides in need, they can be donated to charities that use the fabric in a new way (such as for baby gowns), they can be sold to at least regain some money, or they can be preserved to hand down to a relative later on (such as a daughter, niece, cousin, family friend, ect.) Even though styles change, dresses can be altered for cheaper than the cost of a brand new dress.
I’m just against waste. Those of us who have been blessed to have nice things like a wedding dress (including myself) sometimes forget that there are others out there who don’t have those same opportunities and advantages.
Post # 7
eggnoodles : Trash the dress shoots are such a selfish and disgusting waste of money. I find these shoots to be so vain and distasteful b/c they scream, “Look at me trashing this ‘once in a life time’ expensive as hell dress” Thats just gross to me
I don’t see the point in “rocking” the dress again either but it’s not as bad as trashing it.
Why not donate or sell it? There are a lot of brides who cannot afford their dream dress. Or the angel gowns sound sweet. When there are options like this it makes trashing the dress even worse.
Post # 8
I didn’t get my dress from them but I did use a seamstress from a wedding dress charity organization that’s really wonderful helping women get beautiful dresses that they couldn’t otherwise afford. I donated my dress from my first marriage to them and was able to write it off. My mom puts on her dress for their anniversary every year (except when she was pregnant). I remember as a kid when my dad would come home on their anniversary and she’d walk out in the wedding dress how much his face would light up. I’m going to do the same with mine. It’s just a cute little tradition but maybe you could do that. Or if a friend or family member needs one you could give or sell it to them. I have a friend who wants to wear hers for their whole honeymoon while they go rock climbing and swimming and stuff, it’s not really my cup of tea to trash a thousands of dollars dress but you bought it do what you want with it.
Post # 9
I really like the idea of angel gowns as the PP mentioned.
Post # 10
I agree with the PPs who find the idea wasteful.
Post # 11
I’m not a fan of trash the dress. I really like the idea of angel dresses.
Where I live, there’s a thrift shop run by a non-profit called Housing Works that has annual bridal blowout sale for new and used dresses. The proceeds go towards fighting HIV/AIDS and providing legal, healthcare, and legal services, and job training to the homeless.
Post # 12
A lot of people keep saying it wasteful or to either donate, keep or sell it. I could essentially do a rock the dress then donate or sell or keep the dress afterwards. Nothing said that after the photoshoot I have to put it in garbage. Its a photoshoot in a location you wouldnt be able to do on your wedding day. As per selling, I got my dress on sale at an outlet store. My dress is 3 years old and if Im lucky get $100 from it. thanks for your input everyone.
Post # 13
I’ve actually never heard of a trash the dress unless it was a broken engagement. I actually thought of doing this a few years go after an engagement didn’t work out (I never got around to it lol). Y’all… it’s HER dress. I really don’t see why this would be more “wasteful” than someone simply keeping the dress. Either way, it won’t be worn again. Unless you have a daughter or other relative that decides to wear it for sentimental reasons. And for THAT reason.. I might not “trash” the dress. I’m just kind of a sentimental person. I don’t know that I could do it with a dress from a happy marriage. But perhaps I am goofy that way. I’m not sure why it would feel vain? Why would you feel that way?
Post # 14
khaleesi13 : I feel vain because I already got pictures at my wedding and I should be happy with that. It won’t cost much since my photographer is not expensive at all. I just feel I should be happy that I had a beautiful dress and a beautiful wedding and stop there.
But in other hand because of the rain and the rush of a wedding, I didn’t take much pictures with my husband alone. As well like you said, I payed and altered my dress. It was my most expensive piece of clothes that I will never be able to wear it again unlike my dh who wear it to work. So why shouldn’t I take more picture with my husband in a beautiful scenery one last time before I sell/donate/keep it under my bed?
My dh wanted a automne wedding when the leaves are colorful. he suggested to go to a national park with a forest when the leave change their color and take pictures there in our wedding day attire. Then afterward we spend the afternoon having our last picnic of the year and then go home.
Post # 15
People have strong feelings on this.
First of all, not everyone spends a ton of money on a wedding dress.
Second of all, it is pretty wasteful to put a dress in a box for it to never be used again.