Trash or rock the dress?

posted 1 year ago in Dress
Post # 2
726 posts
Busy bee

Love this idea, but if you’re looking for something to do with the dress that won’t make you feel “vain” why not consider donating it? 

I sent mine to a group of women who make Angel Gowns, they are gowns for babies who have passed away to be buried in. The gowns get donated to local hospitals, and I found it lovely that my dress could bring an ounce of comfort to a grieving family.

Post # 3
2514 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would probably just donate it. 

For what it’s worth, the only people I’ve known who’ve done a trash the dress was people getting divorced lol!

Post # 4
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

I did a “trash the dress” photoshoot 6 months after my wedding and I loved it! You can see it on my previous threads

Post # 5
3523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

I think the “trash the dress” thing is gross, personally.

Why not donate it so another woman who can’t afford a brand new one can have it?

Post # 6
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Personally, I feel like the trash the dress idea is wasteful. Wedding dresses cost a lot of money, and if they’re only worn once and then trashed, it’s not putting a lot of value on your money. They can be donated to a charity that provides wedding dresses to brides in need, they can be donated to charities that use the fabric in a new way (such as for baby gowns), they can be sold to at least regain some money, or they can be preserved to hand down to a relative later on (such as a daughter, niece, cousin, family friend, ect.) Even though styles change, dresses can be altered for cheaper than the cost of a brand new dress.

I’m just against waste. Those of us who have been blessed to have nice things like a wedding dress (including myself) sometimes forget that there are others out there who don’t have those same opportunities and advantages.

Post # 7
2194 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

eggnoodles :  Trash the dress shoots are such a selfish and disgusting waste of money. I find these shoots to be so vain and distasteful b/c they scream, “Look at me trashing this ‘once in a life time’ expensive as hell dress” Thats just gross to me

I don’t see the point in “rocking” the dress again either but it’s not as bad as trashing it.

Why not donate or sell it? There are a lot of brides who cannot afford their dream dress. Or the angel gowns sound sweet. When there are options like this it makes trashing the dress even worse.

Post # 8
660 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I didn’t get my dress from them but I did use a seamstress from a wedding dress charity organization that’s really wonderful helping women get beautiful dresses that they couldn’t otherwise afford. I donated my dress from my first marriage to them and was able to write it off. My mom puts on her dress for their anniversary every year (except when she was pregnant). I remember as a kid when my dad would come home on their anniversary and she’d walk out in the wedding dress how much his face would light up. I’m going to do the same with mine. It’s just a cute little tradition but maybe you could do that. Or if a friend or family member needs one you could give or sell it to them. I have a friend who wants to wear hers for their whole honeymoon while they go rock climbing and swimming and stuff, it’s not really my cup of tea to trash a thousands of dollars dress but you bought it do what you want with it.

Post # 9
10078 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I really like the idea of angel gowns as the PP mentioned. 

Post # 10
12512 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I agree with the PPs who find the idea wasteful. 

Post # 11
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2020

I’m not a fan of trash the dress. I really like the idea of angel dresses.

Where I live, there’s a thrift shop run by a non-profit called Housing Works that has annual bridal blowout sale for new and used dresses. The proceeds go towards fighting HIV/AIDS and providing legal, healthcare, and legal services, and job training to the homeless. 

Post # 13
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I’ve actually never heard of a trash the dress unless it was a broken engagement. I actually thought of doing this a few years go after an engagement didn’t work out (I never got around to it lol). Y’all… it’s HER dress. I really don’t see why this would be more “wasteful” than someone simply keeping the dress. Either way, it won’t be worn again. Unless you have a daughter or other relative that decides to wear it for sentimental reasons. And for THAT reason.. I might not “trash” the dress. I’m just kind of a sentimental person. I don’t know that I could do it with a dress from a happy marriage. But perhaps I am goofy that way. I’m not sure why it would feel vain? Why would you feel that way?

Post # 15
3107 posts
Sugar bee

People have strong feelings on this.  

First of all, not everyone spends a ton of money on a wedding dress.  

Second of all, it is pretty wasteful to put a dress in a box for it to never be used again.  



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