Trash the Dress? (with poll)

posted 2 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Would you do a trash the dress photography session?

    YASSSS all the way!

    No way!

    Yes but I wouldn't fully trash the dress

  • Post # 2
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    758 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2019

    I kinda like the concept of the shoots but I would probably do it with a different, much cheaper dress! They seem fun but there is no way I could trash my actual dress. I know a few people who have done it and had a ton of fun doing it.

    Post # 3
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    22 posts
    Newbee

    I’ve heard of this and the thought of spending so much money on a dress and trashing it seems wasteful and kinda upsetting. If you’re set on it already then I would get a dirt cheap dress for the treason session only. Like cheap ones from a thrift store or Amazon, one that you wouldn’t miss.

    Post # 4
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    5474 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I love my dress and I really wouldn’t want it to get trashed, nor would I want any photos of it trashed.  

    Post # 5
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    2778 posts
    Sugar bee

    I voted “yes but I wouldn’t fully trash the dress.”

    I wouldn’t do anything where I was intentionally ripping or staining the dress (e.g. no spray paint or intentional spilling on the dress — I think those kinds of trash the dress shoots are pretty tacky anyway), but I would absolutely consider doing an artful, editorial style bridal photoshoot at the beach, in a field, or in another location where the dress had the potential to get dirty or a little torn. 

    Post # 6
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    207 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    Yes! I’m actually looking for a photographer that will replace the engagement shoot with a trash the dress session! We had family pics done 2 weeks after getting engaged and had tons of pics of just the two of us taken so don’t feel we need a whole session more of them. However, I’ve always wanted to get in the water and have pics taken in situations where I don’t have to worry about wearing it through an entire reception after so, I’m all game for a trash the dress session!

    Post # 7
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    2455 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I had one friend so this and the pictures were gorgeous. I’m not sure if she used her actual dress. 

    I would do it. I mean to be fair I’ve been married for almost two years and my dress is just sitting in a box…. It’s not like I’m doing anything with it now, so why not get some more cute and fun pictures out of it? 

    Post # 8
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    2772 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I spent too much money (or really my parents did) on my dress to be williing to trash it. I’m with PP that I find it wasteful. I plan on having children, so if I have a daughter, I would hope that she wears it or a portion of it. If not, I would donate the dress. There are many who can’t afford wedding dresses. Dress styles do change, but mine is not super trendy, and will still be able to worn (even if altered a bit) decades down the road.

    Post # 9
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    9561 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    i wouldn’t.  and now that i have a daughter, i’m hoping she might want to use it someday.  otherwise, maybe the grandkids can put it in their dressup bin.

    Post # 10
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    695 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Iowa

    I would not unless as some PP’s suggested it was just addt’l photos of you in the dress without permanently damaging it …

    I was able to take photos of my dress with my 6-month old daughter and plan to take addt’l photos as she gets older. LOVE them.

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  Josina. Reason: for some reason DD (dear daughter) was changed to Dirty Delete??
    Post # 11
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    3971 posts
    Honey bee

    Definitely my favorite pictures from the wedding!  We did a shoot the next day at the beach and in the water.  Surprisingly, the dress wasn’t ruined and I was able to clean it and then donate it.  

    I did buy a less expensive dress because I knew I wanted to take the TTD photos.  I also knew I didn’t care to save my dress after the wedding.  I’m not sentimental like that.  

    Post # 12
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    1988 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    I would rather get murdered on my wedding day, by my husband, with the cake knife, than trash my wedding dress. 

    Post # 13
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    630 posts
    Busy bee

    I think its funny that people find it wasteful, but no one thinks its wasteful to let the dress sit in a closet for the next 50 years.

    And your daughter isn’t going to wear it for her own wedding.

    Post # 14
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    3049 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2021

    I’m not a fan of the concept. If you have no interest in keeping the dress as a keepsake, why not sell it to a consignment store or donate it to a second hand store? A lot of people would love to have a beautiful expensive dress but can’t afford to buy one brand new. It seems really shitty to take something beautiful someone else might want and turn it into unusable trash instead. 

    Post # 15
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    983 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    I guess I don’t really see the point. I’ve heard of “trash the dress” shoots, but only vaguely. I don’t know anyone in real life who has done it. So people just completely trash the dress? Is there a reason? Like, I feel like trashing the dress makes you seem like you’re angry at the dress. I’d expect someone who was getting divorced to trash their dress, because they never want to be reminded of their wedding day again. Is it just for fun? How did the concept come to be, was there an original purpose?

    If it’s just as a couple previous posters said, like they just want to be able to have photos in the water or somewhere else they wouldn’t have gotten photos at for fear of the dress getting dirty or ruined, I get that. Buuut I still wouldn’t do it, and that’s because I don’t love taking photos in the first place. So doing something with no point other than to take photos isn’t something I’d be interested in. But I do love looking at photos, so see no harm in others doing it.

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