(Closed) Trash the Dress? (with poll)

posted 3 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Would you do a trash the dress photography session?

    YASSSS all the way!

    No way!

    Yes but I wouldn't fully trash the dress

  • Post # 16
    9754 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    No, i’d sell that bitch for money. 

    Post # 17
    2544 posts
    Sugar bee

    I always thought trash the dress shoots were either for broken engagements or divorces where the woman trashes her dress with her friends as a sort of cathartic experience. That’s how I first read about it anyway.

    But either way it seems like a waste of a beautiful dress for a couple of photos that wouldn’t have much purpose. 

    Post # 18
    2023 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Nope, I’m keeping mine in storage, and I don’t think that’s wasteful. Maybe I’ll eventually do something with it, but it’s beautiful and I want to keep it. I don’t have children, but I agree with the PP that no one’s daughter is going to want to wear their dress. It’s personal to the wearer; your daughter probably won’t like it much.

    Maybe I’ll put my dress on every year and gawk at myself in the mirror. Lol.

    Post # 20
    13 posts

    Chances are, depending on what it is you are doing, you’ll still be able to keep your dress after it is over. I did a trash the dress shoot on the beach and put my dress through a lot, but after running it under the shower and taking it to the dry cleaner it’s in perfect shape. You might want to do some research on the different fabrics in your dress, and be sure you are ok with it if it does actually get damaged, just in case, but I think they can take more of a beating than we realize. In the end, those ended up being some of my favorite photos and I’m so glad I did it!

    Post # 21
    2819 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

    I think they are unnecessary and wasteful. If I fork out hundreds or even thousands of dollars on a dress that I’m only going to wear for a few hours, I would much rather it go to someone else who probably can’t afford a fancy dress for their wedding than just trashing it for some tacky photos. 

    Post # 22
    1277 posts
    Bumble bee

    I feel like trashing the dress is a trend that has come and gone imo. They were pretty popular at one point but thats kinda over now. I’m pretty practical so plan on selling mine if possible. 

    Post # 23
    4887 posts
    Honey bee

    I didn’t do the type where you spray paint it or burn it, but we got in the water and rolled around in the sand and not only did we get some amazing pictures, we had so much fun.  

    *deleted for privacy reasons*

    Post # 24
    851 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I think it’s a dumb concept… if you truly don’t care to keep it/have it then at least donate it, so many brides in need or prom dresse/material in general needed. 


    Post # 26
    793 posts
    Busy bee

    A week after the wedding I went swimming in mine. It was alot of fun. A member of my new husbands family took the photos, so great bonding time. When we were done I threw it into the washing machine. It looks fine, the dress had way more damage from the reception.

    I loved the photos so much, I’m using one for my avatar. In five years (if it still fits) we are going to do it again.


    Post # 27
    4887 posts
    Honey bee

    To me, getting some amazing pictures and making memories with the dress is so much better than putting your dress in a box in a closet and hoping that maybe your hypothetical future daughter will care enough to actually use it or part of it in their hypothetical wedding.

    Post # 28
    8 posts
    • Wedding: April 2009

    First, a word of caution: be very careful when doing a trash the dress session in bodies of water.  Especially those that have fast moving currents.  Some wedding dresses weigh a lot anyway but when wet they can be very heavy and this can be dangerous with fast moving water.  A woman died in Canada taking trash the dress photos in a river.

    I personally love trash the dress photos! 🙂 I “trashed the dress” 3 months after our wedding for my bridals.  There were so many reasons it just worked for me.  My dress was a clearance steal at $350 and I really didn’t think my daughter would want to wear it.  Our photographer offered a free bridal session if we booked him for engagements and the wedding but I didn’t want to do tradition bridals portraits.  I feel akward posing and sometimes I feel like some bridals come out cheesy so a trash the dress session was right up my alley.  We went to a lake nearby and took pictures in a tree, on a rope swing, going in the lake and fully submerged in the lake.  For the last portion of the session my husband joined me and we got pictures together.  We had a blast and I LOVE my pictures.  Our photographer let us keep all the negatives as well as the edited pics and so I have over 850 photos from this session.  I think I love them more than our wedding day photos!  I know it’s not for everyone but I don’t regret it at all.  Also, I took the dress to a dry cleaning ASAP afterwards and it came back looking like it had never been in a tree or the lake.  We are coming up on our 10 year anniverary next year and I’ve joked about taking it into the pool with my husband to celebrate. 😀

    Post # 29
    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2019

    I would NEVER trash my dress. With alterations, I will have spent 7k on it. I would rather try to resell it, or donate it to another bride before destroying it. 

    Also, trash the dresses in water can be VERY dangerous if there is an undercurrent. Safety first, ladies!

    Post # 30
    1508 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

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    ladyvk :  I accidentally sort of trashed my dress at my reception haha.  I didn’t have a bustle so the bottom of it is really dirty, and I ripped some of the lace on an errant nail in the deck. 

    So it’s not salvageable and I’m not really the type to keep a wedding dress I’ll never use again anyway.   I thik I’ll just cut out some of the lace and put it in the wedding box with the other keepsakes. 


    ETA:  I did originally plan on reselling or donating my dress – but I don’t think the condition is suitable for this anymore.

    We are big into 4WDing so I might do this with DH driving my car:

    Image result for trash the dress 4wd

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