Post # 1
Our venue is located within a big shopping center with lots of fabulous restaurants (in fact, this contributed to our selecting the venue) but I am slowly finding out that not a SINGLE one of the restaurants can accomodate our rehearsal dinner. It seems that one or two offer catering, but none will host a party of our size.
I am extremely dissapointed – especially considering that one of them is my all time favorite restaurant. I was really looking forward to a great rehearsal dinner venue, just a few steps from the guest accomodations.
So one alternative I am considering is a rehearsal dinner (catered) at my parents house. Their home is less than a mile from our ceremony site, so it would work well following the rehearsal. Their house also looks very pretty when it is all decked out for the holidays (December wedding)…
So my question is this cheesy or possibly even “trashy”, given that is will precced a black tie wedding? In my mind, it is a fun casual option before a big upscale event, so it might be a nice change of pace, but I don’t know if I am alone in that thought.
Has anyone had/does anyone plan to have a backyard BBQ/indoor party at someone’s home for your rehearsal? Is your wedding formal? Will people think this is cheap or weird? Do you have any other fun ideas? I am open to suggestions.
If it matters, I am thinking of having a nearby Italian restaurant (Maggiano’s) cater, which is a nice nod towards my Italian Grandparents, or maybe going “all out” and doing ULTRA casual. A pizza party catered by the local pizza favorite – think hand-made authentic pizza, not greasy chain pizza (even though I love greasy pizza haha). Also if anyone is curious: we are paying for the rehearsal dinner ourselves (FIL have graciously offered to pay for our honeymoon!!) so we don’t need to factor in family opinions.
THanks so much!!!
Post # 2
pinktulleaffair: It is perfectly acceptable to have an in-home rehearsal dinner. It can be as casual as you like. Bees have had pizza and bowling for their rehearsal dinner.
Post # 3
I think it sounds completely reasonable! I’m sorry none of the restaurants would accommodate you though, that’s frustrating!
Post # 4
I always thought I would want a formal rehearsal dinner until I went to my sisters which was very casual and at our mom’s house and I LOVED it. We could mix and mingle and get to know each other a lot easier than sitting at a long table at a restaurant.
Post # 5
Sounds good to me! I don’t think it’s trashy at all and I think anyone who thinks it is needs to take several seats.
My cousin’s wedding was a formal affair and her rehearsal dinner was by the lake and casual the day before. A few even wore bathing suits and went swimming. Food was catered and set up near the bar by the lake where there are tables and chairs that she reserved for her party. It was a ton of fun and a great laid back way for everyone to mingle and get to know one another without it being so “formal”.
Post # 6
pinktulleaffair: not cheesy or trashy!
Post # 7
Sounds good!! My brother and SIL had their rehearsal dinner at my parent’s house and it was really nice. They had potatoe soup and salad, but pizza sounds yummy!!
Post # 8
I think if you decorate so it’s cute and feed everyone something tasty, it should be fine. My bridal shower was at my parents’ home, and it felt way more classy than many others I have been to at other venues, because of the detail everyone put into the decor!
Post # 9
Yeah PP has it right. Your rehearsal dinner does not have to match the formality of your wedding. I was going to say I am not having a black tie wedding, but it’s going to be pretty formal (at least for me and my party, never know what guests will show up wearing…oh well), and we are having an uber-casual rehearsal dinner with pizza and some kind of trivia or riddle game MCed by my dad (my dad loves to MC, so I couldn’t miss an opportunity to throw him in the spotlight). We’re actually inviting all our guests to our rehearsal dinner, which we will call a “welcome dinner” (thanks, Bee blogger!) and we’re getting the pizza from the pizza shop (delivery–not fancy in the least) Fiance owns.
I think your rehearsal dinner at your parents sounds really nice and not even close to trashy. You might also notice some bonuses that you didn’t think of before, like no time limits and ability for guests to roam a little bit. If you’re concerned about drinking and driving, just provide transportation info like cab numbers uber/lyft/sidecar info if available, or splurge on a shuttle (maybe your hotel has some kind of discounted service?).
Post # 10
pinktulleaffair: we had ours in our back yard. We grilled hamburgeds and brats and played bags. Everyone had a lot of fun 🙂 it’s your wedding. Do what you love and do not worry what others will think. Your rehearsal is for your and your party not a bunch of stangers!! If your family and friends know and love you. I think the only way they would judge of it was something that wasn’t “you”.
Post # 11
pinktulleaffair: This is not trashy at all. We had a very fancy wedding but had our rehearsal dinner at my parents house, catered by a BBQ place. In all honesty, I think people preferred it to another event where they need a nice outfit, etc. People came in shorts and we played lawn games and ate BBQ and hung out. We had such a blast. I highly recommend it.
Post # 12
We hosted a black-tie wedding, for our daughter. Her inlaws hosted a picnic, in their backyard. I only ate about 3 things, before dessert, including the fruit bowl I made, because I’m a vegetarian. I was going to bring a yogurt, but I forgot. I go by the “no pay, no say rule.”
I don’t care where your event is held, but I’d prefer some variety in the food offered; i.e. I don’t eat pizza and neither does my mother.
Post # 13
The best rehearsal dinner I ever went to, we had pizza and beer/wine/champagne. People still talk about how fun it was, and that was 3 years ago.
Post # 14
I’m a little conflicted.
I think it’s 100% okay to have the rehearsal dinner at your parents’ house. In fact, I think it may even be preferrable because then people will feel more comfortable handing out and talking and not feeling pressure from the restaurant to leave. But I’m not sure that I would have pizza. That seems too casual. I don’t mean in comparison to your wedding, I just mean for an at-home rehearsal dinner.
And yet, I’m having pizza at my rehearsal dinner, and so I fully recognize that my opnion may not make sense. But my dinner will be held at my venue (a vineyard), and the venue has a wood fired pizza oven that will keep preparing pizza for 3 hours until we are done and gone, and somehow in my mine that makes it different from having pizza at home. I think of pizza at home as what we do when we don’t want to cook dinner, so I associate it as even more casual than a “normal” at home dinner. But pizza at a venue that is a little nicer seems different.
It is completely possible that I am splitting hairs or just being too…..picky. Nonetheless, I voted that the at home dinner is fine, just not pizza.
Post # 15
I don’t think the rehearsal dinner is a huge deal, and I’ve been to many of various degrees of formality. The point is to do the rehearsal and feed people, which does not need to be in a restaurant. I think you can hold a dinner in your home without it being trashy. That said, while I personally would have no problem with pizza, it would be good to have a variety of food for people to choose from. Maybe a few deli trays from the grocery store and a couple of hot options in crock pots? Or catering if money isn’t a factor.