Post # 1
We decided to remove my iud and start trying to have a baby. Went to a new obgyn because my old one no longer delivers babies. The first visit was a yearly and she attempted to remove the iud then. Could not find it. Sent me for an ultrasound, and it has moved “up.” The dr scheduled the “procedure room” to attempt to remove it in office. I wasn’t given any pain medicine. She manually dilated my cervix and used tools to fish around my uterus for almost 30 minutes. I keep asking her to explain what’s going on and she wasn’t keeping me informed. I asked her It was excruciatingly painful. I was crying and embarrassed to say but screaming. I asked her to stop twice. She didn’t stop the first time but did the second time. I was crying so hard and couldn’t stop. I was embarrassed and in so much pain and bleeding. She and the nurse left the room without telling me anything. After several minutes I stepped out to leave and the dr was ohtside the door. I asked am I waiting for something? She said you need to sit back down we don’t need you up walking around you’re bleeding. She walked me back in the room and said did they give you a pad. I said no I’m not wearing underwear. She said what? And I said it again. She said well I can give you a tampon and I said no I don’t want anything else in there. She said well you’ll get blood on your dress. I said I don’t care. She said they’re setting you up for surgery and trying to schedule it. Several times she asked me are you OK in a tone that felt really judgmental. I told her honestly I’m really upset you did that with no type of pain control. She said well pain medicine wouldn’t help that anyway plus we don’t sedate in the office. And went on to say that most women would consider that to be mild pain and it just varies by person how we experience pain. Which I don’t care what other people consider- I was in the most pain I’ve ever experienced in my life and that doesn’t make me feel better. It felt like torture. I’m bleeding. I don’t see how anyone would consider that mild pain. I considered insertion of the iud to be very mild pain. I am not overly sensitive to pain. I was told by another dr that it is not normal to try for that long to retrieve an iud. She didn’t know where it was she was feeling for it with her “pliers” which could have caused it to puncture my uterus. I’m seeing another doctor to have the surgery done. But I cannot shake this horrible feeling. I feel like I was assaulted. Several medical professionals have told me it is not normal to continue a no emergency procedure with the patient in so much pain. And not normal to “look” for that long. Normally they would make an attempt then call it and go to surgery. I feel so violated and angry. And afraid she has caused permanent damage.
Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA
Wow. I had the same thing happen with my IUD, but my OB/GYN made a few very careful attempts (paying close attention to my pain level) and stopped when it was clear it wasn’t coming out easily and I was experiencing a fair amount of pain. She booked me for surgical removal the very next week and it was taken out without complications.
I would be pissed right now, too, if I were you. I’m so sorry you had to go through that, as I know exactly the pain you are describing and it’s awful. I hope you get it removed without any trouble after this, and there’s no permanent damage done. Keep us posted!
Post # 3
Wow, that sounds so traumatizing. I get that you feel assaulted because that definitely sounds like she assaulted you. I really hope your new doctor is more conscientious.
Post # 4
ffs. This is outrageous. I am so sorry, bee.
I cant speak to the actual medical issues, but I do know that many women find this painful. I do know that manually dilating your cervix is painful. And I know that someone continuing for 30 minutes to fish around in your uterus when you’re crying is NOT RIGHT.
I have a tilted uterus and endo and all kinds of issues so I’ve been through a lot of procedures without pain meds or being out under. A diagnostic hysteroscopy for one, which I have had in different offices and one caused unbelievable pain and the other didn’t. Who knows.
It hurt like SO BADLY. I’ve broken bones clean off and herniated a disc. Nothing hurt like that. They say it hurts like menstration. Um, NO. Just no.
as for her bs about pain, Some medical personnel can perhaps be not as sensitive to hearing complaints re pain when they don’t expect it to be as bad as the patient is reporting, but hopefully most are not like this. It’s not okay, no matter what.
She is clearly not a good doctor for you or anyone who would like to be treated with respect.
Post # 5
thank you!! I’m so sorry you had to experience this pain as well, but thankful you had a compassionate doctor. I’m seriously considering taking some sort of action against her. I don’t want her to ever do this to anyone else. It was wrong what she did. She would have continued on who knows how long if I hadn’t absolutely insisted she stop. I had already asked her to stop once. It was horrific. I have since looked up review about her online and broke my heart to see multiple reviews complaining that she didn’t stop when asked. That’s criminal. Doctors have no right, no matter how arrogant they are, to physically do something to a patient they’re told not to.
Post # 6
Yes, that is not normal at all. I am so sorry you went through that.
I agree – if someone’s life isn’t hanging in the balance, stop always means stop (and I would argue that having someone’s life hanging in the balance merely makes it more “grey” – many consent laws would still require it to cease at least temporarily, it just allows for the arguement of beneficence). But they had the obligation to discuss risks, which includes pain, risk of infection, bleeding. Otherwise, how can you consent? When I had my iud out it was a very simple, straight forward, in office procedure. I was informed and prepared for everything by my doctor and there was far less risk than what you experienced.
I would suggest you document everything while it’s clear in your head. Ask your husband and whoever else saw you after to similarly document.
Has your new doctor done an assessment to ensure you haven’t suffered an injury? Ask them to document your report of what happened.
I will also say, I can understand feeling violated. I would strongly encourage you to speak with a trauma therapist NOW. Don’t feel like that is an over reaction. Trauma is easier to deal with early on. Be proactice and address it now. Not all therapists are created equal when it comes to trauma therapy, so I would suggest you find someone who specializes in it.
Post # 7
That’s not normal and I would probably report her.
Post # 8
wow that’s crazy, I would report the incident. I had an iud twist on me, they removed it with a scope (while I was anesthetized). Didn’t even try to “fish around for it”.
Your story makes me shudder.
Post # 9
I am so sorry to hear this. But for other women who this story may scare, my IUD removal didn’t feel good but it hurt less than the initial implantation. I didn’t experience any bleeding or anything.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA
If I were you I would definitely make some sort of official complaint, at the very least. I Imean, my doc even made an effort to numb me up around the cervix when it was clear things were really uncomfortable, and that was done in her office, so I know it can be done. I really hope things turn out okay for you, and if there IS permanent damage from her misconduct, I would for sure be talking to an attorney, especially if it affects your ability to conceive! Good luck to you!
Post # 11
Oh bee, I’m sorry. You shoukd definitely report the incident if you feel comfortable doing so.
Ongoing consent is required for every medical procedure and the patient has the right to withdraw consent at any time. What your obgyn did is ASSAULT.
You don’t sedate in the office? Don’t perform painful procedures in the office then. I guess she valued her bill over your pain.
Post # 12
Wow. That’s terrible. My IUD removal was painful, but quick, I can’t imagine having to endure that pain for 30 mins. Definitely report her, not stopping when told to stop is absolutely unacceptable.
Post # 13
That is not normal. I also had a tricky IUD removal (my strings were snipped off entirely and my doctor had to fish around a bit to try to grasp it). Luckily for me, she was able to pull it out within about 2 mins. But she told me from the beginning that she would make a few attempts to grab it, but if she couldn’t get it fairly easily then I would have to be sedated for them to go in and retrieve it. Discomfort was expected, but not excruiating pain – and your doctor 100% percent should have stopped the moment you said to. Find a new gyno ASAP.
Post # 14
omg. Definitely report her. Especially knowing she does this to others. You may want to reach out to them and let them know you reported her and they may want to chime in to make sure she is stopped from practicing “medicine”.. what she did is not ok at all.
Post # 15
omg that sounds horrific. I’m so sorry that happened to you.