(Closed) Traumatized by attempted IUD removal

posted 4 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA

Wow. I had the same thing happen with my IUD, but my OB/GYN made a few very careful attempts (paying close attention to my pain level) and stopped when it was clear it wasn’t coming out easily and I was experiencing a fair amount of pain. She booked me for surgical removal the very next week and it was taken out without complications.

I would be pissed right now, too, if I were you. I’m so sorry you had to go through that, as I know exactly the pain you are describing and it’s awful. I hope you get it removed without any trouble after this, and there’s no permanent damage done. Keep us posted!

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Wow,  that sounds so traumatizing.  I get that you feel assaulted because that definitely sounds like she assaulted you. I really hope your new doctor is more conscientious.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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berry6774 :  ffs. This is outrageous. I am so sorry, bee. 

I cant speak to the actual medical issues, but I do know that many women find this painful. I do know that manually dilating your cervix is painful. And I know that someone continuing for 30 minutes to fish around in your uterus when you’re crying is NOT RIGHT.

I have a tilted uterus and endo and all kinds of issues so I’ve been through a lot of procedures without pain meds or being out under. A diagnostic hysteroscopy for one, which I have had in different offices and one caused unbelievable pain and the other didn’t. Who knows.

It hurt like SO BADLY. I’ve broken bones clean off and herniated a disc. Nothing hurt like that. They say it hurts like menstration.  Um, NO. Just no. 

as for her bs about pain, Some medical personnel can perhaps be not as sensitive  to hearing complaints re pain when they don’t expect it to be as bad as the patient is reporting, but hopefully most are not like this. It’s not okay, no matter what. 

 She is clearly not a good doctor for you or anyone who would like to be treated with respect. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

Yes, that is not normal at all. I am so sorry you went through that.

I agree – if someone’s life isn’t hanging in the balance, stop always means stop (and I would argue that having someone’s life hanging in the balance merely makes it more “grey” – many consent laws would still require it to cease at least temporarily, it just allows for the arguement of beneficence). But they had the obligation to discuss risks, which includes pain, risk of infection, bleeding. Otherwise, how can you consent? When I had my iud out it was a very simple, straight forward, in office procedure. I was informed and prepared for everything by my doctor and there was far less risk than what you experienced.

I would suggest you document everything while it’s clear in your head. Ask your husband and whoever else saw you after to similarly document. 

Has your new doctor done an assessment to ensure you haven’t suffered an injury? Ask them to document your report of what happened.

 

I will also say, I can understand feeling violated. I would strongly encourage you to speak with a trauma therapist NOW. Don’t feel like that is an over reaction. Trauma is easier to deal with early on. Be proactice and address it now. Not all therapists are created equal when it comes to trauma therapy, so I would suggest you find someone who specializes in it.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

That’s not normal and I would probably report her.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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berry6774 :  wow that’s crazy, I would report the incident. I had an iud twist on me, they removed it with a scope (while I was anesthetized). Didn’t even try to “fish around for it”. 

Your story makes me shudder.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

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berry6774 :  I am so sorry to hear this. But for other women who this story may scare, my IUD removal didn’t feel good but it hurt less than the initial implantation. I didn’t experience any bleeding or anything. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA

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berry6774 :  If I were you I would definitely make some sort of official complaint, at the very least. I Imean, my doc even made an effort to numb me up around the cervix when it was clear things were really uncomfortable, and that was done in her office, so I know it can be done. I really hope things turn out okay for you, and if there IS permanent damage from her misconduct, I would for sure be talking to an attorney, especially if it affects your ability to conceive! Good luck to you!

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Oh bee, I’m sorry. You shoukd definitely report the incident if you feel comfortable doing so.

Ongoing consent is required for every medical procedure and the patient has the right to withdraw consent at any time. What your obgyn did is ASSAULT.

You don’t sedate in the office? Don’t perform painful procedures in the office then. I guess she valued her bill over your pain.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Wow. That’s terrible. My IUD removal was painful, but quick, I can’t imagine having to endure that pain for 30 mins. Definitely report her, not stopping when told to stop is absolutely unacceptable.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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berry6774 :  That is not normal. I also had a tricky IUD removal (my strings were snipped off entirely and my doctor had to fish around a bit to try to grasp it). Luckily for me, she was able to pull it out within about 2 mins. But she told me from the beginning that she would make a few attempts to grab it, but if she couldn’t get it fairly easily then I would have to be sedated for them to go in and retrieve it. Discomfort was expected, but not excruiating pain – and your doctor 100% percent should have stopped the moment you said to. Find a new gyno ASAP.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

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berry6774 :  omg. Definitely report her. Especially knowing she does this to others. You may want to reach out to them and let them know you reported her and they may want to chime in to make sure she is stopped from practicing “medicine”.. what she did is not ok at all.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

omg that sounds horrific. I’m so sorry that happened to you.

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