Post # 1
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Newbee
My fiance and I booked our honeymoon for the Greek Isles. We knew that we wanted to honeymoon there even before we were engaged.
Here’s the problem…
My grandmother turned 90 last week. She apparently wants to have all of the family go on a cruise to Italy, Greece, and Turkey during the same month as our wedding and honeymoon. (in an Italian family, anything the grandparents say, goes!)
These are our options:
1. Spend money to change our flight/cut our honeymoon short a day/start the cruise while we are already in Europe…but go to a similar location…almost like an extension of the honeymoon, but with family..
2. Fly home together. I would fly back out to Europe four days later (without my newlywed husband, if he can’t get more time off of work) and spend my first week as a newlywed away from him.
3. Send him home from the honeymoon by himself, as I travel with the family.
4. Don’t go at all..too much hassel…BUT my family may disown me.
What do you think? I’ve been pondering this for months! Definitely the most stressful part of wedding planning!!
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
This sounds like a good time to establich yourselves as adults who are now married. I wouldn’t want to honeymoon with family and I certainly wouldn’t be separated from my new husband that shortly after the wedding.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
Wow do you have that much annual leave from work?
Can you cancel your honeymoon and do it another time?
Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
Since I’ve been married I’ve fought hard for my right to turn down family obligations in order to be my own family with my husband. Your honeymoon should honestly be a good enough reason to say no, but if you have the time and money to extend your h-moon into the family trip I think that’s the only other option.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
Honestly it’s your grandma’s 90th birthday. I would do anything to be there if it was my grandma’s 90th. How many times will the family take a big cruise like this?
Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
@PinkMagnolia: totally agree
Years from now when your grandma is no longer with you you will wish you went on this cruise! You will still have a few alone days with your husband but then you can spend time with him and your family.
Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
I hate to say it but i would definitely do the cruise (you AND your husband) with your family. If it was just your mom asking or something I might feel differently, but I think grandmas should get more leway.
I think I would either try to extend the trip so that you get a few (at least 3) days alone with your husband before or after the trip, maybe in one of the port cities? Or postpone your honeymoon and do a different trip a little later to somewhere else with him.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
IMO since you’d only have to cut your honeymoon short by a day, I say get the best of both worlds and do both. Have your honeymoon, and since conveniently enough you’ll be over there anyway, then (both of you) join them on the cruise and extend the celebration. No downside that I can see unless you can’t get time from work or something.
FWIW my SIL had to back out of an important family get together immediately after their honeymoon because of vacation time – my mother demanded my brother NOT come alone and leave his new bride behind (way to go, Mom!). If for some reason you can’t do this together, go home together. Your family should understand.
Post # 11
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Newbee
Thanks. My fiance actually can’t get that much time off of work, so everyone that voted for the first option, that’s no longer possible. It looks like I’ll be doing the second option. Sigh!
