Post # 1
I am about to graduate from High School and head off to college. In the meantime my family will be moving states away from where I have attended High School the past four year. I have two friends who are both engaged and want me to be a part of the wedding party. One wants me to be her Maid of Honor and the other wants me to be a Brides Maid. The problem is that they will be getting married here in about a year and I do not know if I will be able to make it back for their weddings as my college and home will be far away. I have tried to tactfully inform them of this but everytime I do they don’t listen or don’t seem to believe me. I would love to be at their weddings but, I honestly don’t think I will have the money to pay for a flight. How should i inform them of this without hurting them?
( I will probably get comments about them being young, but the weddings are already scheduled to occur, not just friends talking about dreams. There is little chane that these weddings will fall through.)
Post # 3
Since a conversation didn’t work I would send them a handwritten letter on nice stationery. The unusualness of this will get their attention. Maybe something like this:
I am sooo excited for you! You are getting to marry the man of your dreams. I am deeply touched that you would ask me to be your maid of honor. That is quite an honor! I would so love love love to agree but I am afraid I will let you down. I am moving across the country to go to school and with mom and dad moving away too I see no way I can afford to come to your wedding let alone play such an important role.
A maid of honor should be there helping with all the planning and preparation. She should be the person you can depend on for anything. I so wish I could be that for you but circumstances won’t allow that. I want you to have the best wedding possible. You deserve a huge bridal shower and there is no way I could be here to give you that. As much as this saddens me, I care to much about you to commit to something I don’t think I can live up to. I have to decline. I want you to choose someone who can be there with you through everything.
I would love to hear all the details though. You are still my dear friend and I don’t want us to ever lose touch. If there is any way possible you know I would love to attend your wedding.