Post # 1
I’m leaving on a year-long backpacking trip with my soon-to-be Fiance. The more I think about it, the less I want a valuable sparkly e-ring months before I have to put it in a safety deposit box for a year. (And even with insurance, I wouldn’t want to take it with me. I’m going to developing countries and on some adventurous activities, and to me, it’s not worth the risk or message it sends.)
I don’t want to get engaged with no ring, but I don’t want to wear a valuable ring around or even a stand-in that looks like a diamond or other expensive stone. Of course, when the trip is over I think I will probably want a forever ring. To me it seems to make more sense to buy that afterwards.
What would you get as an e-ring? It could be a band or have a small stone, although I think I’m leaning towards more metal. Would it be crazy to buy the wedding band first? Do you think a promise ring makes more sense?
I would love to see suggestions and photos!
Post # 2
I would do a band… It doesn’t have to be a plain band, there are so many options out there for stonesless rings. Here’s my wedding ring- it’s still fancy an interesting without any bling:
I also really like this since it still looks engagement-y without any stones:
Or you could try something vintage like this:
Hope that gives you a few ideas.
Safe travels, and happy impending engagement!
Post # 3
All of those are beautiful. Do you find the knife-edge comfortable?
Post # 4
What about something like this (both from Heart of Water Jewels on etsy) with rubies or sapphires (still a stone, but they tend to not be very flashy and the bezels make them very wearable!):
Or a etoile-style/scattered diamond band – super comfortable and easy wearing and though there are diamonds it is quite an an understated look.
I am also a fan of just the plain old comfort fit band. I have a 3mm one in 14k yellow gold, and love it – so comfortable and easy to wear. You can then always add a flashier ring later and keep wearing the band 🙂
Post # 5
I think it would be neat to get the “wedding band” first, and then get the “engagement ring” for the ceremony.
Post # 6
I do find it comfortable! Much moreso than I thought I would. It’s super thin and I honestly don’t notice it at all if I just have that one ring on. I’m getting married next month, so I don’t have an “all day, every day” comfort stat, but I’ve worn it around the house quite at bit, and totally love it.
Post # 7
I’m in love with Catbird- I wish I had known about it before we got my ring. They have some very small, dainty rings that are very pretty but not flashy. Not all diamonds either, if you prefered alternative stones!
Post # 8
You might just get bored of explaining the back story to everyone if you get a sort of placeholder ring.
If you really want a ring, I think your idea of getting your wedding band first and wearing that is a good one. It isn’t your wedding ring until you are married in it, but it is recognised pretty much the world over that you are committed. When people ask to see your ring, you just say you are waiting until you get back from your trip to buy it so he proposed with what will be your wedding band.
You are unlikely to be mugged for a plain wedding band, but were the worst to happen, at least it isn’t the ring you were married with so the sentimental damage is lessened.
If you ae okay with a white metal, I’d recommend platinum as any activity related scratches or gouges can easily be polished out on your return without loss of metal.
I’m a huge fan of plain wedding bands, you retain the option of a diamond eternity at a later date. They are classic and bomb-proof,, and I think they often set off the engagement ring beautifully.
Post # 9
I have a Tiffany infinity ring as my e-ring. I only wore it before getting married
Post # 10
All great options. I do love that plain band on you though.It gives me pangs as the 3mm plain band looked nicest on me without my engagement ring but I opted for the 2mm band as I think it looks marginally better with. However I do wonder whether the 3mm band wasn’t the more classic choice and I might have been over-influenced by the current trend for thin bands.
Post # 11
Im biased but I would get an etoile band! They are low key and lovely. Whiteflash will make them in any metal and MM on the cheap. They call it “scattered diamond band”. Use it as your wedding band when you marry and add an “engagement” ring or eternity 🙂
Post # 12
This is where i got my engagement ring ring and I just ordered my wedding band. I love my E ring especially since it’s durable and didn’t break the bank.
Post # 13
I would go with a plain band! It can be your wedding band when you get married, or an alternate band for future travels. I don’t think I would invest in an alternate e-ring with stones, etc.
I bought a yellow gold band for similar reasons. I wanted an alternate wedding ring that wouldn’t get damaged hiking, backpacking, kayaking, etc. I put the ring on a chain when doing things that aren’t ring friendly (like climbing). The band is really beat up now that the high polish finish is almost matte, but that just reminds me of our travels 🙂 Good luck with your trip, I am so jealous!! … where are you going??
Post # 14
Thank you for your suggestions. That ruby ring looks so old world to me, I love it! I was already thinking of maybe getting a plain comfort fit band, and think that’s one of the top contenders at the moment.
I agree! I think that’s what they do in Scandanavian countries actually (engagement band and wedding diamond ring).
Some of these are incredible. I think I’d probably have another jeweler recreate some of them, though, as they are not cheap! Thank you for the suggestion.
I agree with your point about constantly explaining it… that’s so not what I want to do, but I know everyone always asks about the ring. I have been seriously considering a plain band for comfort, but love your sentiment about it being the most universal – especially relevant as I plan to travel all over. Good point about platinum as well.
I was thinking of something like this actually – a ring with some pizazz, but not over the top. Thanks for sharing!
They are definitely beautiful and pair well with many other rings! Thanks for the tip.
Thanks for sharing. Your ring is gorgeous – love that vibrant stone. What kind is it? I really like the size as well!
Plain band is definitely up there at the moment, and I feel you on liking how beat up it is… shows it was lived in! I am going to a few different continents (Europe and the Americas… rest TBD)… very excited!!
Post # 15
the stone is amethyst and the metal is titanium, which I love b cause I never worry about it and it’s super light!
This is where I purchased it, my wedding band just came in this weekend also!