(Closed) Traveling (for pleasure) without your SO

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you travel for pleasure without your SO?
    Definitely! : (56 votes)
    46 %
    Maybe but only if I had to (like in your situation) : (26 votes)
    21 %
    Absolutely not, what's the point? : (41 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 17
    4435 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @FutureMRS3lastnames:  I would if I was in your situation! Actually 1.5 years ago Darling Husband had to leave for business so I took our son to Hawaii with me, my sis and her DH&kids. We had a blast!  it was either that or I would have stayed home with my son without Darling Husband for a week, so we made the most of it! Have fun!

    Post # 18
    344 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think I would only want to travel without my husband if I was going somewhere to visit family or my best friend. Going places with him is just more fun! 

    If he couldn’t go with me on a pleasure trip to Europe because of work, I would probably wait until a time when we could both go.

    Post # 19
    1246 posts
    Bumble bee

    I could not imagine going without him. I don’t know if I’ll enjoy myself without him 🙁 The thought of doing so is depressing. 

    Post # 20
    2216 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @FutureMRS3lastnames:  Hmm, I definitely would do trips without my SO if they were trips with my girlfriend or to visit family/friends.

    I don’t think I’d do a trip like the one you’re describing, assuming your husband also wants to experience Europe and that you’ll get a chance to do it together in the future. I’d probably plan on doing something that my SO wasn’t as interested in, but I have an interest in. I’d rather wait a year or two to do a trip we both want to do rather than go without my SO on a trip we both want to go on. I know my SO would do the same for me. It’s not about limiting the other person, it’s just that we’d rather wait and go together if we both really want to go on that same trip. Of course, if my SO had already gone on basically the same trip, I would have no issues going.

    Post # 21
    2216 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @lorie:  I love your movie rule! That’s a perfect analogy and exactly how I feel about the situation. 🙂

    Post # 22
    314 posts
    Helper bee

    @FutureMRS3lastnames:  I personally wouldn’t because I’d miss Fiance way too much! Haha. But if you want to go, go! It sounds like an awesome trip! 

    Post # 23
    2517 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Absolutely. I just planned a trip with a friend of mine tonight the boys have to work and we don’t. So we’re going skiing for a week. 

    Both my SO and I travelled a lot in our 20s. I’m completely comfortable going abroad on my own. If he has his heart set on doing something together, I will wait until we can both go, but I’ll happily take a trip that doesn’t interest him too much. 

    I just got back from 3 days away with my girlfriends. We go away every few months without the boys. No big deal. 

    Post # 24
    4656 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would travel without him as long as he’s was chill with it, if there was somewhere I wanted to go at a specific time, like if it was a girls’ trip or something… though I’d probably rather wait and save the money for when we could go somewhere together if there wasn’t any urgency about it.

    Post # 25
    9951 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Mr TTR & I are semi retired… and we travel quite a bit.  Sometimes for work, sometimes for pleasure.

    We take our BIG Vacations Travels together… but we are also open to going on trips with our Friends… he with his Golf Buddies, and I with my Best GFs.

    So taking seperate vacations for me isn’t that “odd”… altho I know it is for a lot of people / couples.

    I would have to say if I was going somewhere as WONDERFUL as Europe, I’d probably not do it on a Girlfriend Trip, and would want to go with my Husband cause it would be an awesome experience to share (I like to do THE BEST stuff in life now with my Hubby now that I am married)

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    I DIDN’T VOTE in your Poll, cause none of the choices fit what I think.

    As I am not a FULL ON NO… or a DEFINITELY

    And in this situation (a FAB trip to Europe) I wouldn’t want to go without him

    Hope this helps (some)


    Post # 26
    1724 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1998

    I would. To be honest, my husband annoys the living shit out of me when we travel anywhere. He’s always very nervous and very “safe” – i.e., he doesn’t really like to go out and do anything when we get there. We’ve had the discussion a few times before, though it usually doesn’t end all that well – he sees traveling alone as offensive. I see it as, “I have some free time, you don’t like spending your free time that way, maybe I do.”

    But, in my situation, that’s because it always works out the same. If you can arrange time off to go together, and it would be more enjoyable together, I’d wait for him. For smaller trips I’d definitely go in a heartbeat. Bigger trips, like Europe? That may or may not be a once-in-a-lifetime thing, and going alone could kind of spoil it for him.

    But in general, I am not in the “hold back and wait for your partner” type of person.

    Post # 27
    6526 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @FutureMRS3lastnames:  I wouldn’t go without Darling Husband because I would feel bad that he couldn’t enjoy the trip with me. We made it a point to go on vacation together next year before TTC

    Post # 28
    6294 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @FutureMRS3lastnames:  In the time we’ve been together OH has taken 2 trips abroad without me, and I’ve taken around 10 without him (with either friends or family). Neither of us have done solo trips, but it’s something I’m open to, and he would have no issue with it.

    For us, it isn’t an issue provided it doesn’t take the place of a trip together as a couple (our annual holiday is very precious to both of us) and provided we can afford it (ie it doesn’t affect us as a couple).

    Post # 29
    7413 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I would, and have, travelled without my fi, but I don’t think I’d do it for three weeks in Europe simply because that is a trip I’d rather do with him or with a good friend. Not as much fun roaming around Europe alone as it is with a companion unless its somewhere i’ve been many times before.

    Post # 30
    4698 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    In your situation, I’d definitely go.. whether your husband wants to see Europe or not. You can certainly go back with him. 


    Post # 31
    1191 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    My SO (not even engaged yet, together just over 2 years) would be heartbroken if I traveled without him. He wouldn’t be upset WITH ME, just the situation. I honestly think that if I were determined to go, he’d find a way to come with me. Perhaps even taking a sabbatical. He’s that determined. I know it sounds like he has some kind of attachment disorder, haha, but really it’s just that he’s a worrier, and he would be having anxiety attacks about me getting kidnapped the whole time. Which is a bit over the top, I have traveled by myself all over the globe! But that’s just the way he is, he wants me safe. If I’m stuck somewhere late at night without him, he tells me not to take the bus but to call a cab & he’ll pay for it.

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