(Closed) Traveling (for pleasure) without your SO

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you travel for pleasure without your SO?
    Definitely! : (56 votes)
    46 %
    Maybe but only if I had to (like in your situation) : (26 votes)
    21 %
    Absolutely not, what's the point? : (41 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 32
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    585 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @FutureMRS3lastnames:  Not married yet, but I’ve taken quite a few ‘girls trips’ and solo trips and while he’s sad not to get to go, it’s been totally fine.  I’m sure once we’re married, this won’t suddenly end. 

    Post # 33
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    7371 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Sure would and I have. He’s not into travelling unless its to go back to his home country. So why should I suffer? The world is huge and interesting that I’ve wanted to explore since childhood. He doens’t have the same interestS. Thankfully, in our relationship this is not an issue. My only hesitation might be for the entire 3 weeks. I might limit it to 7-10 days.

    Post # 34
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    154 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Peacockhead:  +1. Traveling alone really reinforces that feeling of being independent, being able to get by in a completely foreign place and think on your feet in a unique way. Anyone who doesn’t try traveling alone at least once are really missing out on something great! I’d never accept if my SO wouldn’t let me go alone! We both travel on our own or with friends if the other one can’t go. But even then I think going with friends is great. I love seeing how happy it makes SO to travel two weeks with friends which he typically does once a year.

    Post # 35
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    6107 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I wouldn’t go on a trip to a place that I knew he would want to go unless he was able to go. Or unless it was a “girl’s trip” and I knew just my husband and I would go back one day. My husband went to Vegas for a bachelor party and while I wasn’t upset that he went, it was really hard to hear about how much fun he had and how it was one of the best times of his life. I really want to go there to visit and hearing all those stories mad me sad that I had to miss out on it.

    Post # 36
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    4438 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @FutureMRS3lastnames:  I actually asked Darling Husband if he would be comfortable with something similar just this week (but not as far away and for as long).  My BFF moved 24 hours away (by car) a few months ago and keeps mentioning I need to come visit, something I didn’t think my Darling Husband would enjoy – what would he do while we girl talked?  So I asked him if he would mind me road-tripping out there by myself and he said he’d rather I not.

    He’s not controlling at all, just if we’re travelling he would rather we do it together! Glad I asked, because I didn’t think he’d mind!

    I think in your case it’s for too long to go without your SO.  Do your vacation times match enough that he could join you for a week or so?

    Post # 37
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    7371 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @CookieCreamCakes:  I see it as, “I have some free time, you don’t like spending your free time that way, maybe I do.”. But in general, I am not in the “hold back and wait for your partner” type of person.


    Ditto. We are still individuals and we have some seperate interests. I see no reason to not do something that I enjoy, when he doesn’t care for it anyway and vice versa. 

    Post # 38
    Member
    866 posts
    Busy bee

    i am too nervous to do any really big travelling on my own but I definitely don’t think there is anything wrong with travelling without your SO as long as they don’t mind

    Post # 39
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    2942 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I voted that I would definatly be okay with taking a vacation without my Fiance.  I end up doing it alot.  My Fiance just has this paranoia about taking time off work.  His boss is definatly the type that would perfectly okay if everyone worked 365 days a year other than the boss, and there is nothing stating how many days he gets off.  I on the otherhand have 23 PTO days a year.  Since we don’t have kids yet, those are hard to fill if I don’t take time off with out him. 

    I started taking vacations to events with another friend.  I have stopped going to these events, but my friend and I made a pack that we would meet up somewhere once a year.  Since he is in the UK, and I’m in the US, its the only way we get to see eachother in person. 

    I love taking vacations with my Fiance, but I at least have a “spare” travel campanion when he can’t get the time off work.

    I like the movie rule as well, and when we were going to events together, my Fiance had no interest in the events, but would be eventually interested in the cities. 

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