Post # 1
I feel so bad.
My fiance found us beautiful hotels in Bali which are romantic and lovely and tropical. However, I really do not want to fly 22 hours to get there. That is not my ideal honeymoon situation and I feel so bad. I am anxious about it and upset and keep changing my mind. What can we do? I am so upset because I don’t want to dissapoint him, but also don’t want to spend the next two months before our wedding worrying about it. I suggested we stay in Dubai (a 12 hour flight) instead, which is supposed to be our layover destination.
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
Compromise is a big part of marriage and partnerships, and choosing a honeymoon destination is no exception. If that long of a flight is a deal breaker for you then you need to be vocal about that. It’s a big world out there, I’m sure there are closer destinations that would be equally amazing for you both.
Post # 3
Can you figure out a stop on the way where you could stay a night or two to break up the flight?
Post # 4
There are other problems with Bali, such as quality of water. Many foreigners get stomach bug. Then you have to be sure the vulcano is not erupting or the flights are cancelled in and out. We had friends stuck there for 10 days past their intended departure. I suggest do the research of the location and discuss it with your fiance.
Post # 5
I’m from australia, Bali is great because it’s cheap and close. BUT I don’t leave the resort there is no worthwhile sight seeing.
I would NOT be wasting my time there with a 22 hour flight I imagine would be pretty EXXY.
It’s a tourist country, it’s not a beautiful cultured city to visit, dirty and a little sad… if i’m being completely honest. Aussies have ruined it, and unless you plan on spending your entire honeymoon INSIDE the resort and not leaving, I would not be wasting my honeymoon there.
Post # 6
Thank you so much for your honesty! I have been dreasming of Bali for years but recently due to moving up our TTC timeline it was looking hard for a honeymoon and i was gutted, but this really makes me feel like i wouldnt be missing out!
OP I do think you should both look and find somewhere that wont be a compromise for either of you! Its meant to be a fun exciting holiday, so any anxiety or fears are just no good.
Post # 7
What are you anxious about, do you have a fear of flying? I love Bali but I’m only 3 hours away, I wouldn’t fly 22 to visit. I’m sure you must have tropical romantic destinations that are closer. Hawaii?
Post # 8
Has the trip already been booked? I wouldn’t want to fly 22 hours to stay on a resort the whole time. There are plenty of Caribbean islands that can give you the same lush tropical feel. Hawaii should definitely be considered too.
Post # 9
If you’re scared about flying, then I’d agree with a pp that there are closer places (Caribbean) that would give a tropical feel without the long flight. Or Thailand (further but not as far as Bali?)
I haven’t been to Bali so cannot comment on that, but Dubai would be a very different kind of honeymoon. Personally I didn’t like it at all, because I was there in June when it was too hot to do anything (literally walking down the street made me want to pass out), and is also very crowded and commercial. I know people who do like it though, as it has plenty of luxury hotels and shopping malls, so it would be good if that’s what you’re after. But personally I think even with a 12 hour flight there are nicer places.
Post # 10
Just throw out ideas together till you come up to something you like for a honeymoon.
as for other vacations, my husband and I have an every-other-vacation rule where for the big trips, we take turns picking out the locations and the other can’t object without a good reason. It works well for us so we both get to see places we want!
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK
Wow I’ve never heard someone say this. I love Bali. Did you venture up to the north of the island? The only place we didn’t like was Kuta. Of course there are tourist traps but you can get away from those.
Not a fan of Dubai but know some people that go often. Where are you located. Like a PP said would Hawaii be an option?
Post # 12
Can go somewhere nice closer to home. From Dubai you are a shortish flight to The Maldives, The Seychelles and Mauritius. Bali will be cheaper when you get there, for good accommodation and generally everything.
I really don’t recommend Dubai for more than 4-5 days. It is a layover destination and not romantic.
Sri Lanka is also a good option.
Also check the weather, because all these places have wet seasons.
Post # 13
oh i 100% love bali, but I am not even close to reccomending it for a honeymoon with a 22 hour flight you’re already not keen for.
It IS dirty, it IS sad.. especially litter, poverty, things have gotten better the past few years compared to say 10 years ago. Not a lot of people are going to stay north in the middle of nowhere, not for their whole trip anyway – you still end up staying in the resort – or catching a shuttle bus into the small town, There are ups and downs to most places. But not going to sing praises for a place that hundred others surpass for this situation.
But I am going again this year – so take my advice with a grain of salt.
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK
we had mopeds (bit scary) and went surfing which is why we went north last time but I get that that’s not what a lot of people want from a honeymoon! I’ve been to Thailand a few times and after Bangkok in the summer Bali felt clean in comparison. Obviously so many residents rely on tourism so I agree there is a sad side to it. The airport experience wasn’t fun for us the first time so I can see how it wouldn’t make for the best introduction after a 22 hour flight.