(Closed) Traveling to a wedding with a non-plus-1

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
2595 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

jaean:  I find it a bit strange that in 2 weeks time you went from not dating to talking about moving in with someone… anyhow, I would say that if she is comfortable, then bring her and let your friend know that she will be traveling with you, but is aware that she may not be able to attend the wedding, so if there is an extra seat to let you know. Many times someone gets sick and can’t make it last minute. So perhaps she would be able to fill in that seat. As long as all involved are aware and comfortable with the situation, go for it.

Post # 3
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

When is the wedding? 

Yes, you can travel with her and she can do something else the day of the wedding if they are unable to squeeze her in. You are adults,no one is limiting who you travel with and where.

I am a bit confused on  

“Now, I live in the Midwest and the wedding is on the West Coast, far from civilization”

The West Coast has civilization… it is not a vast wasteland. 


Post # 5
9858 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

You can travel with whoever you want. If you want to bring your girlfriend and make a vacation out of it, that’s not rude at all. It would be rude if you brought your girlfriend to the wedding after RSVPing without a +1.

Post # 6
6831 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

When is this wedding? I’m assuming if you already RSVPed it has to be soon, right? I’m also confused as to how you went from dating no one, to being in a super serious relationship within 2 weeks, but that’s not the point I guess. 

Anyway, I think it would be fine to bring your Girlfriend along on your trip with you, as long as you were 100% up front with her about her going and doing her own thing on the wedding day. Also, if I was the bride in this situation, even if we couldn’t fit your Girlfriend in for dinner I’d be happy to have her show up afterwards for drinks and dancing. Maybe that’s a possibility?

Post # 8
1888 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t think it’s bad etiquette to travel to a wedding with someone who will not be attending the wedding. It would be bad etiquette to pressure the hosts into adding another seat for your girlfriend, or to pressure your girlfriend into coming on the trip if she isn’t comfortable being alone while you’re attending the wedding. But otherwise, I see no problem with this.

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