Post # 1
As a distant or close friend and/or family member would you be willing to drive 2-3 hours to a wedding and possibly have to pay for lodging?
I have found a few venues I really love. I have only seen one so far in person. The one I have seen is the venue 2-3 hours away from everyone. 1 ½ hours for some. It is on Minnesota’s north shore. It is beautiful. Ceremony, reception, and lodging all in one place. All the venues I am considering are reception and ceremony in the same location. The other venues are closer to the twin cities (where I am located) and probably more centralized for everyone. All the venues I have found are pretty reasonable priced and fairly the same but I have not broken it down to how much everything is going to cost. That being said I have not compared them price wise and what they all offer. I do realize if we do choose this venue on the North shore we may potentially have fewer guests do to the distance. Back to my original question- I would like opinions from both the bride side and family member perspective. Would you be willing to travel? Would you want your friends and family to travel? How far did you travel? Do I even make this about traveling or do we just go with the place we love since it is our day? (I love the other venues too, either way its going to be a hard choice!)
Post # 3
@soontobehisbride: In my family, definitely. In fact your question is a little bit funny because my family is so far-flung, EVERYONE has to travel much farther than 3 hours to see each other for holidays/weddings/funerals. Obviously there are the issues of getting time off, etc, that prevents people from being able to come, but the distance is something we are very used to. That being said, I could see how if everyone being in the same town was the norm, it might be a bigger deal to drive a few hours.
Post # 4
My immediate family is going to have to travel about 2 hours to get to our wedding destination. The rest of my family is a plane ride away. It’s just something we’ve all come to terms with since we’re all spread out around the country.
From a friend’s perspective – My friend recently got married and we traveled 4 hours for her wedding. We didn’t even think anything of it, it was just something we had to do because our friend and her husband mean a lot to us.
ETA: You traveling and staying in the lodging that your guests would be staying in is a really good idea. It’ll allow you to get a feel of the rooms before deciding if you’d like your wedding there or not.
Post # 5
I traveled 3+ hours twice this summer for a friend and a family member’s wedding. I paid for my own lodging both times.
Post # 6
we are getting married about 2.5hrs from all our guests bc we/ our friends live in nyc and my parents/ family is in boston. Our venue is basically in the middle since i refused to plan a wedding over 5hrs away and my mom refused to pay for a wedding that her friends/family wouldnt be able to attend….
Post # 7
Like the other ladies, people will have to travel to get to our wedding, we just moved it to a central location. Our venue is an hour and a half to two hours away from our house (depends on traffic/weather). The guests are going to be coming from 2-6 hours away, no one lives closer. After high school my friends and I didn’t live in the same places anymore, I travelled to be in all of their weddings, travelled home last spring for my brother’s wedding, etc…
If lodging is not in the same place as the ceremony/reception, just call a few hotels in different price points and reserve a block of rooms for those who will need it.
Good luck and enjoy the process! I’m sure you’ll find the perfect venue!