Post # 32
I don’t think you can know until you have the baby. I don’t think you’re a bad mom either way, though. It’s good to let kids get used to others, but 9 days is quite a long time. You never know how long it will take you to get pregnant either, as PP have mentioned.
Post # 33
Thank you everyone for your input! DH and I definitely have a lot to talk about tonight. I know that I probably won’t get pregnant right away, but I wanted to know if this trip would be even be possible in the best case scenario. I do have until December/January to cancel, so that is very helpful
Post # 34
Will there be any negative consequences if you back out at the last minute or a few months before?
You may be starting to TTC but there is no guarantee you will get pregnant right away, or that everything will go smoothly, or that when the baby is here, you will still want to go. A lot of things are up in the air.
So in your case, I would plan to go, and if there are no consquences to you, your travel mates, or FH, hopefully the stars will align and you’ll have a great trip 🙂
Post # 35
@onyx81: I would go – it is true that Ecuador will always be there but trips will be harder and harder once you have children
Post # 36
Want to add an interesting story thiry some years ago my Aunt and Uncle left my cousin their first born then aged 6 months for a month. My Uncle had to go to Europe for work. I know that she has said it was hard to leave him but glad she went. They have not gotten the chance to go to Europe again. I do not think it hurt my cousin at all. He is married with 3 kids and has a masters degree.
Post # 37
I would. We are thinking about taking a cruise with just us in Feb or March of next year. Baby will be 5 months. Will it be hard leaving? Yes. But it’s not like they A. will remember and B. grow up in a week.
Post # 38
If you plan to breastfeed then NO WAY! At just a few months old, I’d say anything under 6, you are putting your nursing relationship at great risk being away for that long.. for being away even a few days! Nursing at the breast is imperative for successful breastfeeding! Not just that but if you did manage to keep your supply up through that trip (requiring you to pump atleast 5-6 times a day every day, meaning you would need a way to clean, store, & carry your pump parts) you would have to build a stash of ~30oz of milk per day you’re gone for the baby to eat! When you return you would possibly looking at a baby refusing to go back to the breast…..
Yes, baby in of itself would be fine… BUT breastfeeding? That’s a whole different story! It’s highly unlikely it would survive that long of you being separate from your baby.
Sidenote: I’m a mom that has unsuccessfully breastfed her first and just passed the 1 year mark of SUCCESSFULLY breastfeeding her second!
Post # 39
Absolutely not. But I breastfed until 11 months. Baby comes first and I would not finish breastfeeding early for anyone or anything. (Unless it was medically required of course).
Ecuador will always be there. How much more money would it cost to go to Ecuador at a more opportune time (either before baby is born, or when baby is older)? Then ask yourself, is it worth ending breastfeeding to save that much money?
Post # 40
I’d do it for sure, 9 days isn’t all that long!
Post # 41
Nope. At 4 months old, mom is baby’s main source of feeling loved, safe, and secure. I could not leave, or give up nursing for a trip. I’m not saying life stops when you have kids, but 4 months is so young.
Post # 42
I don’t think I’d want to leave my 4 month old.
HOWEVER, what are the consequences/cancellation policy of this trip? It took us 19 months to conceive, so if we’d been passing up on stuff because I “might” be pregnant all the time we’d have put our entire lives on hold for almost two years. We were always just careful to insure things and have a backup plan. What do you mean when you say “free”? Like, you won it, or it’s a work trip, or you’re going on somebody else’s dime? If It was free to me because somebody else was paying, I probably wouldn’t commit to going, because that’s kind of rude I think to keep the possibility of ending up cancelling and them ending up out money under wraps.
Post # 43
If you’ll be formula feeding, go for it! A free trip like this is once in a lifetime and I would take advantage of it. Baby will be fine with your husband – it’s only 9 days, it’s not a huge amount of time.